I try to ignore xenogender stuff, but it's hard when people are clearly misusing transgender terminology and treating it as on par with gender dysphoria, which is a real, diagnosable condition. The 'I'm autistic so I experience gender as a concept/object/etc' angle is especially irritating given that's just not how autism works, coming from someone who has ASD and innumerable friends with it too.
People need to realize personality/interests and gender are not the same. It actively harms the queer community.