forgive yourself for all the shit you didn’t know. the mistakes you made. the times you stayed too long. the times you ignored ur judgment. the times you put up w/ too much. the times you let yourself go. all of that. let it go or else you’ll forever be scared to mess up. it’s ok
stop saying it’s okay if it’s not okay. don’t silence the parts of you that still feel discomfort. don’t suppress your emotions that are a result of their actions for the sake of keeping the peace. if you are still bothered, there is no peace. that’s a form of self-neglect.
i used to hate relationship conflict. it felt so intense, so challenging, so frustrating that i thought aiming for no conflict was the solution. in reality, conflict and challenges in relationships are necessary opportunities to grow closer.