i always feel like i’m on the verge of being abandoned like if im not constantly interesting & perfect & fun & react perfectly everyone will reject me. like i have to constantly Perform to justify my existence
A full-time paycheck should cover:
- Rent without panic
- Groceries without math
- A doctor without a GoFundMe
We aren't asking for yachts.
We're asking for basics to feel basic again.
Her tire blew out. She pulled into a gas station, locked the doors, and waited for her family to come help.
When police arrived she was unconscious in the driver's seat.
They broke the window and fired twenty-three shots into the car.
Tyisha Miller. Riverside, California, December 1998. She was 19.
She was hit twelve times. Four officers fired.
No one was charged with anything. A grand jury declined. The Justice Department reviewed it and closed it.
The four officers were eventually fired by the city — and the police union fought that, too.
A nineteen-year-old waiting for roadside assistance, asleep behind a locked door, in a car that was not going anywhere.
Twenty-three shots. Riverside changed its entire police department after this, under state supervision. That is what it cost.
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Is it just me or anyone else noticed social and spatial awareness completely vanishing? People freezing in doorways, hogging the entire sidewalk, planted in front of exits, blocking whole aisles, stopping at the top of escalators… Get out of the way. Other people exist here too.
teaching your adult family how to treat you as an adult truly is exhausting. i think everyone still sees the twelve year old, who is gonna do whatever she's told to do. i am a grown ass woman now and i am gonna do whatever tf i feel like doing. i value my time/space/energy.
my therapist told me this and it hit me: “healing is so hard because it is a constant battle between your inner child who is scared and just wants safety.... your inner teenager who is angry and just wants justice.... and your current self-who is tired and just wants peace."
Maturing is realizing none of us are easy to be with! It's about who's willing to stay committed, to understand you and actually wants to grow with you.
i heard a therapist say, ‘your feelings are always valid, your behavior is not.’ she explained by saying feel what you feel but you need to be accountable for what you do as a result of those feelings.