Hadn’t seen my boyfriend in over a week, and when we finally sat down for dinner, he pulled out a piece of paper and said, “I’ve got so much tea to spill that I wrote it all down so I wouldn’t forget anything.” 😭😂
I was 21. NYSC posting: a village clinic in Osun. No light. No water. Just me, a matron in her 60s, and women who walked 3 hours for antenatal.
Day 1, a 16 year old girl came in bleeding and pregnant. Her 40-year old husband said, “It’s normal. First baby always hard.”
Matron took one look at me and said, “Corper, you go learn today.”
We had no ultrasound or blood bank. Just gloves, faith, and a torchlight I held with my mouth while Matron’s hands disappeared inside that child.
For 6 hours we fought. The girl was slipping. Matron prayed in Igala and English. I cried, thinking, “This is why I wanted to japa.” 😂
Then the baby’s cry came; a small, angry boy, alive. The 14-year-old whispered, “Aunty, thank you for not running.” 😭
Covered in blood and sweat, Matron said: “You think this work na for money? This work na for the girls who don’t know their own worth yet. You stay. You fight. You stubborn. Because if we no stubborn, who go be stubborn for them?”
That was 5 years ago.
Today I’m a doctor in Lagos with a clinic in Abule Egba. Every girl who comes in with “normal period pain” that’s been killing her for years reminds me of that torchlight and Matron’s hands. I get stubborn.
I’ve diagnosed 47 cases of advanced PID this year, done 12 fibroid surgeries, and caught 3 girls early before their wombs got damaged.
Ladies, my message is simple:
1. “Normal” pain that stops your school, work, or life? It’s NOT normal.
2. Your body is not “village people.” It’s biology. Test it. Scan it. Know it.
3. Be stubborn about your health. The world will call you dramatic. Be dramatic and alive.
That matron died 2 years ago, but her stubbornness lives in every girl I refuse to let die quietly.
I don’t want a city on Mars. I don’t want AI in every app. I don’t want data centres in space. I don’t want humanoids or flying cars. I want clean water. I want a stable climate. I want bees to survive. And a habitable planet.
I hate when people at work ask you what books you are reading for professional development. I am reading books to counteract the effects of being professionally developed. I am reading books that bring me back to being human.
What the Artemis II astronauts did over the last 10 days was a testament to their bravery. And the fact that they traveled farther from Earth than anyone ever has, re-entered our atmosphere at more than 24,000 mph, and splashed down safely was a testament to human ingenuity. Thanks to everyone at @NASA for making this mission possible, and for taking us along for the ride.
THIS WOMAN POSTED A PRETTY PICTURE OF HERSELF AND I TOLD HER SHE LOOKED LIKE AN ETHEREAL TREE NYMPH. SHE RESPONDED “ALL NEGATIVE COMMENTS ARE GETTING BLOCKED” AND BLOCKED ME 😭
I’LL STICK TO “PERIOOOOOOD!” NEXT TIME 🥀
Beyond entertainment, K-dramas are good.
1. Improves language skills.
Even if you don’t speak Korean, reading subtitles regularly can improve your reading speed and vocabulary. Over time, you may even pick up basic Korean phrases.
2. Boosts emotional intelligence.
K-dramas often focus heavily on relationships, family, and personal struggles. This can help you better understand emotions, empathy, and how people handle situations.
3. Exposure to a new culture.
You learn about Korean customs, food, social norms, and traditions, like respect for elders, work culture, and festivals.
4. Encourages critical thinking.
Many K-dramas have complex plots, twists, or moral dilemmas that make you think and analyze characters’ decisions.
5. Stress relief and relaxation.
Watching a good drama can help you unwind, laugh, or cry, basically a healthy emotional release.
6. Improves focus and patience.
Unlike short social media clips, K-dramas require following a storyline over many episodes, which builds attention span.
7. Inspiration and motivation.
A lot of characters overcome challenges, work hard, and grow, this can be motivating in real life.
8. Social connection.
You can bond with friends or online communities over theories, and favorite characters.
9. Better appreciation for storytelling.
K-dramas are known for strong plots, character development, and cinematography, which can deepen your appreciation for filmmaking.
So yeah, far from “reducing IQ,” it can actually help your mind in different ways if you watch in a balanced way. 👍
Can we normalize putting summaries on the back of books again instead of reviews? I just genuinely want to know what the book is about before picking it up.