If someone asked me, “How do you want to be loved?” I might answer, “With gifts, flowers, candles or love letters.” But if they asked me on a deeper level, I would say I want to be loved in a way that feels safe. The kind of love where I don’t have to question if it’s real or temporary. I want consistency. Someone who stays not just when it’s easy or exciting, but also through quiet, ordinary days. I want to be understood without always having to explain every part of myself. Someone who listens not just to respond but to truly understand. I want a love that chooses me every day, not only when it’s convenient but especially when it’s hard. A love that doesn’t leave at the first sign of difficulty, but learns, grows and stays. I want to be loved gently, honestly and intentionally, not just through words, but through actions, every single day.
Padahal ini juga ada loh di alquran, sebagaimana anak perempuan yg belum nikah semua di tanggung oleh sang Ayah, paman (kalo yatim), saudara lelaki kalo punya.. dan saat nikah pun di tanggung oleh pasangan nya harus seperti ayah nya mengasihi dia sebelum nikah.. bahkan suami tidak berhak memakai uang sepersen pun dari warisan sang istri.. apa bila istri membantu, suami wajib mengganti uang/harta tersebut sesuai nominal.. surat an-nisa sudah menjelaskan secara detail padahal..
tadi nanya ke driver gojek berapa rating akun gue ternyata dapet 4.88 (685 reviews). okay not bad lah ya trus pas nyampe rumah cerita ke emak gue dan beliau ngomong “kenapa 4.88? kok ga 4.9 atau 5.0?” wallahi inilah peak asian parent moment 😭
Nah banyak perempuan gen z yg udh muak sama hal ini; liat di qrt udh mulai ngomongin konteks temen & coworker juga. Mindset kita udh kyk, "persetan, mending gw jalan sendiri" ktimbang smakin memberatkan hidup yg sudah berat ini.