Liz Yap

[Peter Savodnik @petersavodnik]

"All death is certain. We do not get to choose whether we live or die. We only get to choose whether we live before we die."

A call to arms c/o @KonstantinKisin

[Inquirer @inquirerdotnet]

UNREASONABLE RULES. A lawmaker who used to head the Bureau of Immigration has claimed that the imposition of stricter rules for Filipinos going out of the country curtails the people’s right to travel and their right to privacy.

READ: https://t.co/j8CmzM7WNh

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Procrastination is an attempt at self protection.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

- can tolerate disagreement
- has integrity (values match actions)
- interdependent relationships (has clearly boundaries and sense of self)
- tells the truth, even when it's difficult
- high level of self awareness
- accepts parents as flawed humans

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Signs you are an autonomous adult:
- sense of self worth comes from within, not through other people
- clearly communicates needs
- flexible around opinions (no black and white thinking)
- lack of entitlement (not everyone needs to think like me)

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

INTEGRATED ADULT DEVELOPMENT (18+)

In this stage, we have fully matured into an autonomous adult.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

- rarely if ever vulnerable ('I don't need anyone')
- pulls away or pushes away people in relationships
- seeks "passion" or intensity in romantic relationships
- develops armor and coping mechanisms like sarcasm
- sense of self comes from approval from peers

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Signs you might be stuck in the adolescent stage:
- you are highly self focused
- you're shut down to anyone else's input ('know it all behavior')
- controlling ('my way or the high way')
- focused on right now over the future or long term planning

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

ADOLESCENT DEVELOPMENT (7-18)

In this stage, we're experimenting with the world around us to understand who we are. This means we'll engage impulsive, self absorbed behavior testing limits and getting feedback.

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

- you think you're "bad" (shame-based beliefs)
- you're impulsive and rarely think long term
- you feel out of control
- you struggle to control your emotions when things don't go your way
- you hero-worship parent figures (seem them as perfect humans)

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

- you consistently think people are mad or upset with you
- you ask your partner or friends if "everything is ok" regularly
- you never feel good enough
- you need an extreme amount of attention
- you have a chronic fear of abandonment

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Signs you might be stuck in the ego centric stage:
- you take everything personally
- you believe you're responsible for how people feel
- you cannot tolerate someone being upset, and often try to micromanage or change their emotions

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Your developmental age is different than your actual age. Many adults are much younger emotionally, because of this.

Here's how to find out your developmental age:

[Fellexandro Ruby @fellexandro]

After three podcast recording session as a host, my last guest commented:

“I really enjoyed the chat. You didn’t seem like the introvert you mentioned.”

Me: It’s a skill I learned. But after this, I’m off from social media, whatsapp, basically all human touch for 2 days.

🤣

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Normalize not giving an answer right away. “Let me think about that” is a saving grace for people pleasers.

[Liz Yap @lizzgetsloud]

@NswPeter @brianhioe It’s also allowed in other bookstores like Kinokuniya and even local ones such as San Min Books. Perhaps you are right, it can be a factor.

[Liz Yap @lizzgetsloud]

@RollingWave0720 @fransglobal Totally agree with you on this. I think it’s not fair to compare it to well-established cities like London. They can set it as a goal, but shouldn’t expect a very quick turnaround. And in my opinion, Taipei is doing better than major cities in my city, Manila

[Dr. Nicole LePera @Theholisticpsyc]

Many people are unaware that their version of caring behavior are actually attempts at controlling another person.

[Liz Yap @lizzgetsloud]

It’s Day 1 of mask-off outdoors, but the winter wind is preventing people from letting it go. Brrrr 🥶