One of the heaviest burdens as a father raising children is the unchecked wave of indecency and social vices that have become the everyday backdrop of our public spaces. Eateries, supermarkets, markets, streets, and beaches; places that should be neutral grounds for family outings have turned into open arenas where moral boundaries are blurred or completely erased whilst social vices are now the new normals.
You take your kids out for a simple meal, and right there in the booth next to you, a young lady is dressed in ways that leave nothing to the imagination, while companions and others engage in loud, vulgar conversation laced with profanity that no child should hear. Walk into a supermarket on a Saturday, and the aisles are filled with music videos blasting explicit content on the screens, teenagers openly displaying affection that borders on the obscene, and adults who should know better laughing it off like it’s normal.
The markets? Even worse. Hawkers, traders, and passers-by throw around language and gestures that make you instinctively cover your children’s ears and hurry them along. The streets are no sanctuary either.
From Victoria Island to Lekki and everywhere in between, the beaches that used to be refreshing escapes have become spectacles of moral decline; half-naked bodies on full display, public intoxication, and scenes that make you question what kind of society we are building.
Anyone grounded in strong cultural and family values will be deeply disturbed. The danger is not just what they see once in a while. It is the slow, constant exposure that normalizes indecency and moral decadence in public places, where people of different ages assemble and interact.
Children begin to think this is how adults behave. That revealing dressing is fashion. That vulgarity is confidence. That disrespect for personal boundaries is freedom. Before you know it, the foundation you are trying to build at home starts cracking under the weight of the streets.
For anyone who pays enough attention, you see the downstream effects every day, broken homes, rising cases of exploitation, loss of dignity, and a generation that is losing its sense of shame.
We must refuse to pretend this is not happening. Many parents are quietly battling the same thing and shielding their children while trying not to make them feel like outsiders in their own city. We monitor what they watch, the friends they keep, the routes we take, and still, the environment fights us at every turn.
We cannot continue like this. Those who still hold firm to decency, character, and responsibility must speak up louder. We must raise our children with even stronger counter-values at home. We must demand better from our communities, our leaders, and the businesses that profit from turning public spaces into moral free-for-alls.
Our lands have so much potentials, beautiful, vibrant, full of opportunities but we are losing our soul if we allow this decay to continue unchecked.
Fellow parents, especially those rooted in tradition and faith, let us not sleep on this. Our children are watching. The question is: what kind of adults will they become if we do not fight for their innocence in the middle of this chaos?
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As we talk about Women’s Health Month, I keep thinking about how many of our traditional soups used to be heavily vegetable-forward.
From Oha soup to Efo riro, the vegetables used to actually dominate the pot.
I’m not against evolving our cooking methods.
Reducing excess oil and avoiding overcooking vegetables is progress.
But somewhere along the line, vegetables became garnish and meat became the main character.
Leaves are not decoration.
They are fibre, folate, magnesium, potassium and protective phytochemicals that support gut, metabolic and hormonal health.
Sometimes improving women’s health isn’t always about adding more supplements.
Sometimes it’s about putting the leaves back in the pot.
Why is every soup turning into protein shake consistency?
As a mom who is also a Registered Dietitian one of the things I use to make informed food decision is knowing how to read labels.
Even though I live in the UK there are a lot of crappy food on the shelves .
I look at how much fat, protein, misleading marketing (high source of protein yet the sugar is double).
You need to know what your food says.
Ingredient list, daily value , it’s important for your health.
Here’s a simple guide on reading labels I shared a few months ago here 👇🏼