Did yall hear about Reset Day ?
Take the day you were born, and reset on that day every month. Take the day off, self care, shop, spa, eat ice cream… WHATEVER makes you happy.
For example if you were born on the 10th of a particular month, your Reset Day is the 10th of every month. That’s 12 reset days a year. You deserve it and i believe there’s something divine about it 🧡
My therapist asked, "What happens if you say no and they get angry?"
I said, "It will ruin the vibe."
She said, "If your safety depends on their mood, that isn't a vibe. That's a hostage situation."
I've been staring at the wall for 20 minutes.
The real reason you're tired all the time: It's not your workload. It's your open loops. The text you haven't answered. The apology you owe. The decision you're avoiding. The conversation you keep postponing. These run in the background of your mind all day, draining your battery. Close your loops. Watch your energy return. Mental clutter is more exhausting than physical work ever will be.
i highly recommend everyone to have a hobby. watching films, listening to music, clicking pictures, recording videos, sports, documentaries, drawing, sketching, doodling, painting, writing, journaling, singing, swimming, knitting, reading, gardening, cooking, baking, brewing, walking, cycling, running, trekking, birdwatching, stargazing, collecting postcards, coins, stamps, records, cameras, art, prints, pens, stones or seashells, working out, playing football, cricket, chess, cards or video games, solo trips, repairing things, staring at the sky or chasing sunsets, whatever it is. no matter how big or small, how fancy or silly, if it gives you a sense of escape, something to return to when the coin flips and life feels like shit, doomscrolling wont help you. its important for you to have a hobby, a real hobby.
Adopting a "do it right now" mentality has done wonders for my organization & discipline. Something on the floor? Grab it right now. Thinking about cooking later? Cook right now. Laundry finished? Put them up right now. Home from a trip? Unpack right then. It's the small things.
I'm learning how to say ok, without arguing back. I'm learning how to stay calm, without getting mad. I'm learning how to walk away, without retaliation.
I'm learning how to stay cool calm & collect.
My life advice to you is to show up for the thing. I can’t count how many times I have wanted to cancel a meeting with friends because I was too tired, and then I ended up going anyway and having the time of my life. Human contact is better than screens. Show up for the thing.
my therapist always tells me “if you want to go for a run, go for a run, don't look for company. sooner or later, on your fifth run or your twentieth, likeminded people will find you themselves” and only recently have i realized that this principle works everywhere.
Tolerating always turns to resentment. At first, you call it patience, then love. But what it really is, is self-abandonment. Every time you swallow a boundary, excuse a pattern, or silence your discomfort, something inside you keeps score. And eventually, the bill comes due.
my father always told me “if you want to go for a run, go for a run, don't look for company. sooner or later, on your fifth run or your twentieth, likeminded people will find you themselves” and only recently have i realized that this principle works everywhere.
someone told me yesterday that when they feel nervous about trying something new & their heart starts beating really fast, that they call it their “inner applause” because their body is cheering them on, and i think that’s the best narrative adjustment ever.