Do you ever get exhausted by food? Not the food itself, just the endless cycle of deciding what to eat, shopping for it, cooking it, and having to do it all over again every single freaking day.
every time you replace "this is hard" with "what's the first step?" you shift brain activity from your amygdala (fear) to your prefrontal cortex (problem-solving).
that's neuroplasticity in real time.
the reason dating apps repulse me is the same reason im repulsed by food delivery apps, rideshare apps, online shopping, the human brain is fundamentally a hunter gatherer. apps allow you to click and order something without putting any work in, going to a store, a restaurant etc
How men feel when they go out fishing on a saturday is the same as how women feel when they stand in line for an hour for yogurt.
It's a meditative state. The end result is not really the point. You are just removing yourself from the time constraints you have to adhere to rigorously during the workweek.
If you never learn how to bloom where you're planted, you'll find places upon places that are right for you, and you'll leave every one of them as soon the weather gets bad
In fiction evil is often written to have depth and complexity while good is written to be simple and boring. But in real life evil is boring and predictable while good is complex and unique every single time.
stuff like this is where the US beats japan. if you walk into a store in japan & ask to buy a menu they'll be confused, talk it over for ten minutes, and then say "it's not explicitly covered in our 32647-page training manual so no". in the US they'll say lmao sure for $5 i guess
My doctor and I were discussing my anxiety and she said "Brains are made to keep us alive. They're not made to keep us happy." And I can't stop thinking about that.
At bedtime the 8 yo told me his teacher said: "Think of your mind like a pond full of fish and each fish is a feeling. Try to be the pond, not the fish." And all I can say is primary school has significantly improved.