Lawyer @ Fintech. Feminist. Love F1, lego, scuba diving, and interesting shit.
Always looking to discover different kinds of coffee, comedy, and cold ones.
your motives are the OS every tiny decision you take runs on. cutting corners because no one will see. treating people with disrespect because they aren't "important enough."
how you do anything comes from what you're actually optimising for. money and fame will produce fundamentally different work than love for the craft
something I keep thinking about: we love talking about India’s “collectivist culture” vs the “individualistic West” but collectivism in India operates on a very narrow axis. family, caste, community. it’s an obligation network, not a generalized warmth toward people.
I’m in america and I smile at strangers all day. small talk with baristas, “excuse me”s that are actually polite, people holding doors. in India I can go days without a single pleasant interaction with someone I don’t already know. and this isn’t a poverty or scarcity thing imo- I’ve been snapped at in business class lounges and premium restaurants with equal enthusiasm.
the truth is Indian public culture treats strangers as noise at best, adversaries at worst. if you’re not someone’s someone, you don’t really register as a person deserving of basic pleasantness. and this cuts across class. rich Indians are often worse to strangers because the hierarchy is so stark.
meanwhile americans build micro-civilities with everyone because they can’t assume shared context. you HAVE to establish baseline rapport with strangers. it’s not deep but it’s genuinely nice to exist inside of.
the real irony is using “collectivism” as moral superiority (“at least we value family, not like those lonely americans”) while producing a public culture that’s genuinely unpleasant to navigate unless you’re inside someone’s inner circle.
maybe we should stop congratulating ourselves and ask why our streets, queues, and service interactions are so much harder than they need to be.
please stop consuming podcasts at 2x speed, speed reading 100 books a year & using ai to summarise other ai slop and calling it learning. my brother in christ, go sit in a park with one idea and wrestle with it until you have a thought that's actually yours. that one thought will be worth more than everything you "consumed" this year
With parents being involved by law in Gujarat to get fully involved in the marriage of adult offspring, why not get parents to just get contracted with samdhis/other set of parents? Why bother the son/daughter at all?
Why do people get so personal when someone recommends them to use olive oil? It is a great oil, in fact one of the best. Grown in large amounts in Rajasthan. Tata, yes that desh ka namak desh ka loha brand sells EVOO as well.
Your argument that it is not good for high-heat cooking doesn’t make sense, because anyone using olive oil for health wouldn’t cook such foods. For basic bhindi lauki cooking, it is perfectly fine. And if you are saying you can’t deep fry things in olive oil, obviously man, deep frying in any oil is not good for your health. Please rise above kachori samosa poori bhatura for once. There are thousands of dishes out there that tastes best without frying.
The comments on this thread are so depressing.
A lot of men seem to be focussing on whether the murdered wife was actually cheating on her husband (as opposed to just talking to some male colleagues).
How the flying fuck does that justify her murder???
Just few months into the marriage, Anshul Dhawan, CA from Haryana k!lled his wife Mehak only because of suspicions that she was talking to her male colleagues.
If you think you cannot trust your partner, please file for a divorce. Part ways and let them live.
A divorced daughter is better than a dead daughter.
you need to sidequestmaxx.
no wonder you feel like shit when you never do something new.
go on a hike.
make a coffee in the woods.
invite a friend for a bbq.
go to a new city.
build something.
learn something.
sit around a campfire.
go on a trip.
but never, ever, let life get repetitive.
routines are enslavement.
you become lulled into a feeling of emptiness.
you need to fight that shit.
embrace adventure, novelty and danger.
lifemaxx.
Ordered from Rare Rabbit 2 days back.
I get a call from a very professional sounding girl saying my card payment hasn’t reflected in their system and I need to pay again. She says the earlier amount will be refunded.
For a moment it actually sounded genuine.
Then my founder instinct kicked in.
I started asking simple questions. She got irritated, cut the call, and never called back.
Yesterday my product got delivered without any issue.
So how did a scammer know I placed an order, paid by card, my phone number and the exact brand name within 24 hours?
This doesn’t feel like random spam. Crazy how our data leaks with a bullet train speed!
new: Hundreds, if not thousands, of Indian H1B visa holders who flew from the US to India this month to renew their work permits found their appointments abruptly cancelled, and could be stranded in the country for months, away from family and at risk of losing their jobs. “This is the biggest mess we have seen,” one lawyer told me.