one of the best advices I ever got is if you want a calmer life, you need to address small problems while they’re still small. the cost of dealing with an issue rarely gets cheaper with time. procrastination turns uncomfortable things into unavoidable things.
you must believe you are special and then go so hard, for so long, with such violent refusal to accept any other ending, that reality itself starts running out of ways to tell you no. you must wage a war daily against the ordinary outcome, until the belief you invented out of nothing in a room by yourself has been hammered into the world so many times that it stops being a claim and becomes reality.
Sometimes you gotta remind people... I was already chosen before you arrived. Already blessed. Already building. You was an addition to the frequency, not the source of it.