Mangesh Chore

Technology Infrastructure professional in Banking and Financial services... tweets are personal

[Mangesh Chore @mangeshchore]

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💯💯 think before you speak!!

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Some first jokes on WW3…

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Only when you understand that true power lies not in the ability to dominate, but in the wisdom to protect, you begin to understand the profound intelligence of an elephant- mighty yet gentle, powerful yet compassionate
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Thread of the most unique Murtis of Bhagwan Ganesha across the World.

1. Multi-headed Ganesh murti in Thailand 🇹🇭

[Mangesh Chore @mangeshchore]

Ganapati Bappa Moraya !!!

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WHAT CAN MEN DO TO HELP

I have been struggling to find words about the heinous and tragic crime of sexual violence and murder of a young doctor in Kolkata, and have only been amplifying stories of women & medical professionals so far.

But looking at the comments in so many posts of women, I’ve been horrified & disturbed.. but sadly not surprised. Hundreds of men have, as usual, chosen to respond with ‘Not all men’, ‘Men get raped too’, ‘Fake feminism’, ‘Victim card’, ‘Attention seeker’ and so on.

They are going to attack this post too, and I’m not sure if there’s any easy way to fight that mindset, so this post is aimed at the other men: who are feeling deeply uncomfortable today, and aren’t sure what men can do to help. As it turns out: we can do EVERYTHING.

1. WHAT CAN WE DO RIGHT NOW

a) Listen, read and amplify
A lot of the anger today is aimed at men, and rightfully so. Instead of reacting to it or taking it personally, we must read as many accounts of women speaking up, to understand and acknowledge their pain. And we must then use our platforms to amplify as many of those voices as we can.

But this must not stop only at social media. We must create spaces among our families, friends and teammates, for women to be able to express themselves without judgement, shame or fear. Listen, but not to react, or even to respond, but to just intentionally, meaningfully and genuinely listen.

b) Speak up and show up
It’s a shame that not enough men - even decent, well-intentioned men - are sharing stories or posts or commenting or supporting the women who are. A silent support is no support at all.

Of course, there will be men who will attack us too, who will write degrading messages like ‘nahin degi’ (which I’ve received a *lot*) or will try to find ulterior motives to this bare minimum. But there is strength in numbers - if enough of us speak up, others will too.. and it may just compel those who think otherwise to join us too.

But this support cannot be limited to online spaces: show up offline. Join protests. Add our voices to those of the women.

c) Talk to our boy’s/men’s friends group
Very often, men only discuss crimes against women with the women in our lives but not with the men. Either because we have been conditioned to look at these crimes as a ‘women’s issue’, or because we feel uncomfortable in talking to our male friends, as it’s not a regular topic of conversation among them.

But we must break this pattern. Women’s issues are human issues, they are a society’s issue, they are a nation’s issue. And we must discuss them through stories, anecdotes, facts, challenges and solutions too. And why stop at friends? Let’s discuss them with our fathers, sons, brothers and co-workers. Let’s make our stake in this very clear and vocal.

2. WHAT CAN WE DO BEYOND TODAY

a) Discourage sexism and misogyny
Most people and spaces around us are are casually sexist. That’s a fact. From our homes, where boys and girls are treated differently in what they are allowed to wear to what they are allowed to study, to Whatsapp groups and reels where jokes about & on women are viral, to workspaces, where women are often given menial tasks of birthday cakes and gifts and very often objectified.. we need to check our own biases and discourage those in others. Some people are actively terrible, while others are conveniently ignorant. We must speak up against both.

It’s only when men start holding other men accountable (in whatever way possible), will problematic men alter their behaviours.

b) Challenge toxic versions of masculinity
Masculinity isn’t inherently toxic but the most visible versions of masculinity often are. From Andrew Tate to homegrown YouTubers, from Animal to reality shows, women are so often degraded, diminished or dehumanized with jokes, insults or roasts by the loudest voices in the public sphere, and even the loudest ones in our friends circles, using the excuse of ‘content’. But any content that encourages you to look down, wage battle or actively hate upon a marginalised community is not content, but propaganda.

Trying to assert power, show superiority or project dominance over women doesn’t make anyone more of a man, just more of an asshole.

c) Be An Ally
Allyship is not just about words but about actions. It’s not only about doing the easy thing, but often the tough one. Allyship doesn’t just mean dropping or checking in on a female friend at night, it can mean anything from supporting women when they need it to respecting their boundaries when they want it, from stopping harassment when we see it, to creating safer workplaces, homes, online & offline spaces in any way we can as individuals, to being mindful and thoughtful that as men, we can only assume the agony of women, not truly know it.

We must respect women in our words, actions & policies not just when they can see it, but especially when they can’t - but other men can.

3. WHAT CAN WE DO LONG-TERM

a) Acknowledge our part in the problem
Even the best-intentioned men have contributed to a culture in society that encourages those who commit crimes against women with impunity.

We talk about victims of violent crimes as someone’s mother, daughter, sister, but never recognise the perpetrators of those crimes as someone’s brother, father, son, or friend because it’s tough to acknowledge that rapists walk right among us. And they get empowered to believe they can commit - and get away - with their crimes, because they have seen the way we talk, behave with, create and consume art, film & content that takes away the power of women, on an everyday basis & in everyday spaces.

Nothing will change unless we all hold ourselves to higher, better and stringent standards on all of these.

b) Play our part in the solution
We need more men to participate in the conversation around gender equality.
We need more men to participate in the action towards gender safety.
We need more men to talk about this, we need more men to fight this fight, we need more men to demand accountability, we need more men to take responsibility, we need more men to come together with women and all genders to work for a safer world for everyone.

I will repeat: Women’s safety isn’t just a women’s issue. It’s your issue, it’s my issue, it’s a HUMAN issue. How can we guarantee a better life for anybody unless we can guarantee a better society for everybody?

c) Play our part in the solution
And to any man who has a counter point:
When you bring up your own safety, it’s because you are afraid of other men.
When you bring up your own oppression, it’s because you are oppressed by other men.
When you bring up men’s issues not getting importance, it’s because other men aren’t giving it that.
When you talk about men’s rights, it’s because other men have not deemed your rights important.

The power has always been in the hands of men: your fight isn’t against women, it’s against the system that men have created to benefit men and oppress everybody. Join the resistance, so we can create a better system together for women and everyone.

[Mangesh Chore @mangeshchore]

@free_thinker Done my bit.. sent for the whole year .. keep doing the good work...

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that’s actually the snorkeling instructor. please treat him with respect

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Irrespective of how this ends, there isn't another in the white ball game today to match Bumrah. And nobody from India ever at this level in limited overs cricket

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"Atapi-Vatapi" 😭

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Dramatization of true events: Part 2 😂

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Outstanding breakdown of #LokSabhaPolls2024 by The Hindu Data team (here’s what you’re missing out on if you haven’t subscribed to the e-paper https://t.co/VkrE5TNCsf)

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Remembering My Father .. #VilasraoDeshmukh

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#ElectionResults
BJP: Abhi bar 400 par..
Rahul Gandhi and Akhilesh Yadav:

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The importance of one tree 🦙🌳