Daughters are no longer raised to be wives. They're raised to b people. And some people are really not okay with that. They're not being taught to sacrifice. Not being told that marriage is the finish line. They're questioning things. To society their freedom looks like defiance.
There's no point doing so-called social work outside the home if you don't recognise the gendered abuses that are happening inside your own house. It's only an attempt at flattering your insecure self.
I have yet to meet a woman whose life truly improved after marriage. She won’t say she’s unhappy, but you can see it in the way her light fades, the way she barely exists outside of work, housechores, and childcare, all of which she mostly shoulders alone.
Sometimes what we need is a safe place to fall apart. Not in a tragic way, but like a long sigh. Where there's no advice, no interruption to your thoughts or any list of the next steps. Just a secure place to feel profoundly understood and rested so we can breathe and rise again.
The men who need to watch movies like The Great Indian Kitchen & Mrs will not watch it anyway. It’s not that they don’t know, they just don’t want to change. Long live patriarchy.
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Hi
My name is Rohan Mehta and I will try to make this as easy to understand as possible. I have been employed with Ministry of External Affairs for more than 8 years now. During this period, I have served in Embassy of India, Moscow and Consulate General of India, Sao Paulo.
While working in Sao Paulo, I learned that the Consul General (head of Consulate) was a totally corrupt lady Manisha Swami and she used to harass all employees. Her modus operandi was simple: she used to come to office for some time and abuse and shout at the employees and then leave for the whole day. She was also misusing official resources. There was another Consulate employee (Adarsh Mishra) who was harassing female employees and not working at all. Before I move further, let me tell you the salaries of both of these employees which is effectively taxpayers' money(USD $7000 and USD $5200 per month approx. respectively).
As Consul General learned that I was the only one who could complain, she nudged another employee to make a fake sexual harassment complaint against me. The goal was that I either back off or probably commit suicide as a result of the fear they were trying to create in my mind. But why would I have fear when I had done nothing. The name of the lady who complained is Gayatri Gosain. This lady used to tell me that she used to treat me like an elder sister. And I gave her all due respect like you would to your sister. By complaining against me, she did an extremely cheap thing. But when this complaint reached Ministry of External Affairs and when she was asked if she wants to proceed with the complaint she backed off
(either because of shame because she knew that she made a fake complaint or because she knew that Complaint Committee takes action against the complainee when it is fake). Now also, I have all documents to prove it was fake. I will post an image which shows how much harassment I was facing while I was in Sao Paulo. Also, Adarsh had also harassed Gayatri Gosain and the first 3 minutes of one hour recording on my Facebook post(link is available below in the tweet about sequence of posts) have proof of the same.
Now let's move further. I eventually made a corruption complaint on 5 January 2024. I addressed it to Indian Ambassador in Brazil Suresh Reddy and Administration head in India B Vanlalvawna. I informed about the corruption and also about the sexual harassment instances. But instead of taking any action against the culprits, I was recalled to India and was asked to travel back on 9 January 2024. I intimated that I was not vaccinated against yellow fever so I maybe allowed to take vaccine and travel after 10 days once the vaccine becomes effective. Regardless, I was given an exemption certificate to travel without vaccine(this was a clear safety hazard). I am attaching a copy of the certificate here. The guy who signed this certificate was also harassing another Brazilian lady and a recording of the same is available on my Facebook post.
https://t.co/3jiDR98ZbD
I returned to India and asked about action taken on my complaint. I was told that no action will be taken against it. In a short while, Ministry opened a fake case against me alleging that my fiancée(who is Brazilian) was living with me in Brazil. My fiancée was not living with me in Brazil and I intimated the same. I also intimated that I was facing harassment and I even submitted a copy of corruption complaint to Vigilance Section. They called me two months after my reply and tried to coerce me to change my statement and write that my fiancée was living with me. This coercion was openly illegal and anyone who wants to know what happened can listen to the following recording.
https://t.co/vanKAj0Qbb
This recording is 40 minutes long and in the second half the Undersecretary from Vigilance Section is repetitively trying to force me to change my statement. In the first half, another personnel from Vigilance tells me that generally action is taken against people who complain about corruption.
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