I canโt emphasise the importance of building yourself outside your relationship enough. Even when making plans( long- & short term)โฆstructure them in a way that should the person be out of the picture youโll still be able to carry them out by yourself๐
The first weekend I dropped the kids off at my in-laws' without my husband, something quietly shifted in how I saw family. As I prepared to leave, my father-in-law did what heโd always done for his son, he looked at me and said, โLetโs go fill up your tank.โ I quickly told him Iโd already done it on the way there, hoping to avoid the offer. He gently but firmly replied, โNever do that again.โ
Since then, Iโve come to understand thatโฆ
The only type of social media pressure Iโll ever feel and has ever successfully gotten to me is ACADEMIC PRESSURE.
The graduation pictures are lit, that PhD gown is sexy AF and Iโll be wearing it soon. By force & fire!