when a lot of our rights and the sources of our oppression are tied irrevocably to our birth sex it makes sense that a lot of ftms realize that we will never escape and no one in the medical field has the intention of improving things to make escaping this body possible
the top things that make me dysphoric aren't solved by this surgery. at all. yet its my only option besides killing myself and i have to sit around and be told "if ftms are unhappy in transition its their own fault bc testosterone does everything"
before phallo:
- wait several years (5+ for me rn) for consult
- wait even longer for surgery
- pay for electrolysis myself bc its not covered (100/hr and i need to do this multiple times a month for 18 months consistently to have a hairless donor site)
kink/intimate
most standard chastity cages do not fit properly
many commercial sex toys are incompatible
vacuum pumps cannot create a natural erection
condom fit varies wildly
genital piercings are impossible because the required anatomy is absent and the urethra is constructed
they'll argue that pooner isn't a slur and then claim hon is. girls you invented the chains for your own marginalization with 4t4 slang and you are reaping the rewards:)
mtfs have
- penile inversion vaginoplasty
- ppt vaginoplasty
- sigmoid vaginoplasty
- 0 depth vaginoplasty (vulvaplasty)
- min-depth vaginoplasty
ftms have
- phallo (not designed with trans men in mind as the main recipients leading to high complication rates)
- meta
Not to doom post but I just saw someone genuinely say transmascs having “so many” (two) options for bottom surgery somehow means we’re better off instead of…. Being an indicator that phalloplasty is Not Satisfying for a significant amount of the people who want a penis.
people who are supposed to be your allies tell you that actually the growth is good and if it makes you dysphoric you're not trutrans because who wouldn't want hrt to induce clitoromegaly and make something you're already disgusted with bigger.
imagine: hrt not causing genital atrophy but hypertrophy, spiking your sex drive, and the very nature of ur genitals means it generally requires more sustained and specific stimulation to reach climax. combine that with ur genitals being a bioactive cave that leaks.
there's no treatment that can adequately save you from this. your options are to keep what you have or undergo a surgery not designed for your biology to get a minimally sensate, aesthetically incorrect flesh packer that reacts to nothing and stays the same regardless of arousal.