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The Empty Boat Mindset:
A monk goes out on a boat in a small lake to meditate. After a few hours of uninterrupted silence, he suddenly feels the jarring impact of another boat bumping into his.
While he does not open his eyes, he feels the irritation and anger building within him.
“Why would someone do that? Can’t they see me here? How dare they disturb my meditation?”
He opens his eyes, ready to shout at the person in the other boat, only to realize that it is empty. It had come untied from the dock and was floating in the middle of the lake.
In that moment, his anger and frustration disappears. After all, you cannot be angry at an empty boat.
The story offers a powerful lesson, which I call the Empty Boat Mindset:
In life, you’re going to experience countless collisions. With people. With environments. With chance circumstances outside your control. Each of these collisions will threaten to derail you. To stoke the fire of anger, stress, and frustration. To knock you off your path.
The truth is that the negative emotions that grow inside you are rarely from the collision itself, but from your perception of the negative intent behind the collision.
If you convince yourself that every collision is a deliberate action by a bad actor, negative emotions will control your entire life. In others words, your interpretation of the collision creates your own poison.
The Empty Boat Mindset is the reminder that most of these collisions you experience in life are with an empty boat. There is no negative intent. There is no desire to harm. They are simply the random collisions of objects floating along on the lake of life.
Interestingly, when you embrace the Empty Boat Mindset, you reassume control over your own boat. You’re no longer prone to the spiraling emotional effects of chance collisions. You are a seasoned explorer, ready to adapt to whatever the seas throw your way.
So, the next time you feel a collision and find your negative emotions growing, pause and ask yourself a simple question:
Am I just getting angry at an empty boat?
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“Okay, y’all ready for a lecture?” he asked.
What followed was a powerful lesson on entitlement and doing your best.
Saban on the Importance of Nothing:
“Let’s talk about the importance of nothing. You get up every day, you’re entitled to nothing. Nobody owes you nothing.
“You have talent, but if you don’t have discipline, you don’t execute, you don’t focus, what do you get? Nothing.
“If you’re complacent and not paying attention to detail, what does that get you? Nothing.
“So, nothing is acceptable but your best.
“Everything is determined by what you do and trying to be your best. There should be nothing else but that, for everybody.
“That’s what we need to stay focused on. We need to not accept anything but our best in terms of what we’re doing in preparation.”
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It’s a simple, but profound message.
Some key takeaways:
1. Entitlement is a disease. It stunts growth and erodes culture.
2. Success has a one-day life cycle. Yesterday doesn’t dictate today.
3. Nobody is owed anything. When your feet hit the floor in the morning, it’s on you.
4. Talent matters, but it’s far from all that matters.
5. The actions you take drive success. Talent only amplifies those actions.
6. Even the best can’t afford complacency. There are competitors trying to defeat you every day.
7. If you’re entitled, the biggest competitor is yourself.
8. If you’re owed nothing, that means nobody else is either. Therein is your opportunity.
9. You can have the best strategy, the best business model, the best talent and … none of it matters if you don’t execute.
10. There are no guarantees. Relish the unknown.
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