The German word sonder can give you an extreme competitive advantage in life.
It means this: every person you pass on the street has the same complexity of life that you do.
Their own love interests, their own family, their own concentric rings of relationships and history radiating out from them.
Most of the time we just walk by people like they’re objects in our field of vision.
Sonder is the practice of actually feeling that about the people around you.
The paradox is that the more you dial into that, the less significant you feel, nd the less significant you feel, the happier you get.
The moment you make everything about yourself, you stop getting satisfied.
But when you realize you’re just another cog in the wheel doing your best alongside everyone else doing theirs, people sense it.
People will relax around you. That’s when real connection happens.
Interesting lady @KemiBadenoch All of a sudden she has hit her straps and is being taken seriously. The Nigerian connection on Football raised by @piersmorgan is interesting. Also a Nigerian connection to Rugby. Current England Rugby and British & Irish Lions Captain @maroitoje is of Nigerian descent and former England prop @Victorubogu was born in Nigeria. Mr Ubogus son is the controversial figure @HSTIKKYTOKKY4 of Social Media fame.
What does it mean that people film themselves yelling abuse at an elderly woman they see on a street at nighttime? It means they’re proud, feel self-righteous and expect approbation. It means something has gone horribly wrong in society.