I never imagined I would be making this kind of plea.
My wife, Dasola, went in for a Caesarean Section to deliver our baby, but what should have been the happiest moment of our lives suddenly became a fight for survival.
She developed severe sepsis after surgery, leading to
There’s really nothing you won’t see in workplaces these days because tell me why something so small turned into a full HR situation on Monday 😭
So there are these two people in my office that everybody already calls “work husband and wife.” They’re always together lunch together, inside jokes, sharing food, gist partners, everything. The girl even keeps snacks for him because this man hardly brings food to work and anytime anything happens, they run to each other first.
At some point, people stopped seeing it as innocent office friendship.
The crazy part is that this man has an actual serious girlfriend outside work, but from the way he behaves in the office, you honestly wouldn’t know.
Now fast forward to Monday.
His girlfriend decided to surprise him at work. Nobody knew she was coming. She asked for him and was directed to his department, but when she got there, he wasn’t at his desk.
Of course, he was at his usual spot with his “work wife,” both of them laughing and sharing food like always.
Someone pointed them out to her.
This girl stood there quietly for a few seconds just watching them. Then she walked up calmly. The moment the guy saw her, you could literally see the panic on his face 😭 he stood up immediately trying to compose himself.
Then she said:
“So this is the colleague you told me not to worry about?”
Silence.
Before he could even explain anything, she picked up his phone and started going through it right there in front of everybody.
That’s when the real problem started.
Messages. Late-night chats. Plans outside work. Things that clearly crossed the line from “just colleagues.”
The calmness disappeared instantly 😭
Voices started getting louder, people gathered around, and you know how offices are once drama starts suddenly everybody has one important thing to do in that exact area.
HR had to step in because the whole thing was becoming a serious scene.
The funniest but also most awkward part? The “work wife” genuinely looked shocked, like she didn’t even realize how deep everything had gotten until that moment.
Since yesterday, everything changed completely. No more sitting together, no more lunch together, no more public gist sessions… nothing.
Then yesterday HR sent out a general message saying staff should avoid “work husband/work wife” dynamics and maintain professionalism at all times 😭
Honestly… after what happened, I completely understand why.
The Quiet Discipline of Boundaries
During my past relationships, I always kept strict boundaries and distance with the opposite sex my female friends, colleagues, or associates. I do not hang out with them. I keep my distance. My ex once asked me why I do that. I just smiled. She did not understand that it was my way of enforcing emotional discipline, sexual discipline, and loyalty. Because when I am with you, I focus on you fully. No divided attention. No emotional leaks. Women mostly don't see things these way, they often think it's harmless with the opposite sex till calamity has happened.
Feelings are like flames. The more you fan them, the more they burn. A small spark a friendly text, a shared laugh, a lingering glance can grow into something destructive if you keep feeding it. This is exactly how many people, especially women, end up cheating. Not because they are evil, but because they fail to recognise how small, "harmless" interactions slowly erode their boundaries.
It often starts innocently. A man approaches a woman at the gym, at a sports club, at school, work, online, or even on the road, most times even when she tells him she has a partner he still pushes and tries to be friends to find possible loopholes to exploit to get sex.
She thinks, "He just wants to be friends." That won't hurt. She agrees to exchange contacts. The conversations start small about, work, life, hobbies, casual jokes, suddenly the stranger becomes very caring . Then they become frequent. Late night texts. Compliments that feel good to receive. Inside jokes that exclude her partner. She begins to look forward to these interactions. She smiles at her phone. She tilts the screen away when her partner walks in. She starts hiding chats.
At this point, she has already crossed a line. But instead of pulling back, she rationalises: "We are just friends. I am not doing anything wrong."
Then something shifts. She begins to compare. The new man listens more (or so it seems). He gives her attention and validation. Her partner, the one who has been loyal and consistent, suddenly seems boring, annoying, or lacking. She starts looking for fault things she never noticed before. She focuses on the missing 20 percent while completely forgetting the 80 percent her partner has been doing right.
The good things her partner has done, the bills paid, the time invested, the patience shown, the love expressed all vanish from her memory. Resentment builds. She starts arguments over small things. She pulls away emotionally. And then, one day, the line is crossed. Cheating advances to sex.
Many people lack the discipline to set and maintain boundaries. They go to the gym, sports clubs, workplaces, camps environments full of interaction with the opposite sex and they fail to say no. No to exchanging numbers. No to late night texts. No to private conversations that should not be happening.
They tell themselves, "I am in control." But feelings do not obey logic. The more you fan the flame of an inappropriate connection, the harder it is to step back.
Dear @gtbank, I woke up to 21 unauthorized debits on my account, leading to a substantial loss without my consent. I’ve reported this via phone and at the branch. Kindly investigate urgently and reverse these transactions.
cc @cenbank
Somalia in the 1990s experienced state collapse. The central government lost territorial control. Warlords established parallel governance structures. Parallel economies emerged based on extortion and piracy.
Is Nigeria taking same path?
The greed and selfishness of nigerian politicians got us here. Killings are happening and this one that calls himself "President" is traveling out 🤦🏾♂️
The Muhammad Buhari admin negotiated for the release of school girls kidnapped by the terrorists but left a girl behind because of her religion. Never went back for her. She never came home to this day.
That act created divisions that no one attempted to heal to this day.
But you gaslight other members of her religion that there's no agenda.
The ongoing enforcement around the Ikota area in Lekki is not targeted at any tribe or group. Earlier in the year 2025, we inspected the Ikota River setback alignment areas and issued removal notices to affected homeowners.
The truth is simple: water and hazards know no tribe, colour, or race. The buildings being removed were erected on the right of way of ikota River , directly obstructing natural channels and worsening flash flooding in the area; especially the Lekki - Ajah corridor (System 156, 157, 44, 44A, and 46).
Only structures within the right of way are being removed. Our goal is to restore the waterways, reduce flooding, and protect lives. We will continue to engage residents with empathy, but non-compliance will not be overlooked irrespective of whom is affected.
This is about safeguarding everyone, not targeting anyone. The recent flooding on the Island calls for our collective support for finding permanent solution to those issue. We cannot keep complaining of an issue and still attack government for providing solution to said issue.
It is all for a #CleanerLagos and a #GreaterLagos.
BREAKING: Wesley Fofana is set to miss #Chelsea's matches against Brighton, Benfica and Liverpool due to needing to miss the next 12 days because of concussion symptoms.
[via @kierangill_DM]
Really can't fault Sanchez. Look at the nonsense defender called Fofana. Zero reaction to that ball coming in. Leaving Chalobah to do all the defending