@NinaSteele17@Momademia 100%! Maternity leave is HARD. As much as I love my kids, I felt like I was losing myself without the intellectual stimulation from work. I’m a much better mum when I work. Felt guilty for a long time but I’m finally accepting its who I am (and that’s okay).
@awong37 thoughts on the safety of @usask deciding to return to in-person classes while cases are still rising? All the students and faculty I’ve talked to are highly concerned.
@PhDVoice@PostdocVoice I changed year 2 because my supervisor was emotionally and mentally abusive. I also added a co-supervisor year 4 because my current one is lovely but distracted and I lost lots of time due to papers not being submitted, comps not being scheduled, etc. Good decision both times.
@Researcher_Kate@Momademia I did PhD PT for 8 months after my first. My second was born in 2020 and I took 15 months mat leave and kept my preschooler home as well. I’m now back to full time. Definitely had an impact on my degree progress and I’m not sure how it will impact my post degree career.
@fungi_lover @Krista_BH@Momademia Sleep deprivation and scrambled brain also sucked. It felt like I completely lost myself. But it really does get better around 18 months.
@fungi_lover @Krista_BH@Momademia I have two and am still doing my PhD. The hardest thing for me was postpartum hormones/mood issues. I never got my milk, and with my first I pumped around the clock while he was in NICU which triggered bad PPD. I wish I had let myself use formula without guilt.
@samuelmehr Easy! They (age 1.5 and 4) play together quietly all day, and then pick up their messes. Also they cook dinner every other day, and sometimes I let them grade for me.
@Cassie_Boness Why is this so common? After my son was born, my (former) advisor told me it was a mistake to have a baby during grad school. I’ve been pregnant 5x during my PhD (2 living kids) so that cut extra deep. It’s so inappropriate to comment on someone’s family planning.
Hi! I’m Martyne, #interD PhD candidate studying barriers newcomer women face in accessing language education. I’m #bipolar with anxiety and #endometriosis, and self-diagnosed autistic. I love teaching and helping make higher ed classes more accessible. #DEHEM21#DEHEMRollCall
@amy_nusbaum @Momademia I’m quarantined with my 3.5 and 1 right now. Lots of TV, playdough, magnets on the fridge, and blocks are helping so far. Also duplos keep 1 busy for a long time. Busy toddler has good ideas if you have the time/energy to do a bit of prep.
@MommyamygillAU @SRevelare@babybelladonna2@AcademicChatter Yep. My current hobbies are duplo, puzzles, and cocomelon. Before kids I was into vegan cooking, micro-sustainability, and Irish dance.
@kuintzle@ambartosik If I didn’t have children I’d be done already. Instead I’m just reaching ABD. I also wish more people would talk about this. There should be more support for student mothers.
@kuintzle@ambartosik I’ve had 4 pregnancies during my PhD, 2 living children and 2 miscarriages. While it was the right choice for me, it has definitely affected my progress. I had to switch advisors because my first treated me horribly after my son was born.