masxinamm

my secret place to rant and vent

[Kubira @oonayoy]

True. Sebelum kahwin i joined webinar Aiman Azlan. Dia selalu sebut dan ingatkan bahawa kat dalam dunia ni akan sentiasa ada orang yg lebih baik. Sama ada lebih baik dari orang yg kita jumpa atau diri kita sendiri. You just have to know when to stop searching and comparing.

[🔺meingl🔻 @meinmokhtar]

Untuk sapa sapa yang ada suicidal tendency luar sana. Stay strong semua

[Shaurya Mishra @shauryabjym]

POV :
Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.
Whatever this is so cute & adorable !

[masxinamm @masxinamm]

ah masalah bila asyik rasa unworthy of something.

[𝑴𝒊𝒓𝒆𝒙 @mirexmoses]

There’s a debate going on about which is worse: mosquitoes or bedbugs.

As someone who respects facts, trauma, and lived experience, let me be clear:

Bedbugs are the worst creatures to ever exist.
Mosquitoes?
We Africans are built for mosquitoes.
They disturb you, you slap one, you get malaria, you treat it, life moves on.
Use a net, cover your body, sleep with fan, you’ll still manage to sleep.
But bedbugs?

Ah.
When bedbugs enter your house, you are no longer the landlord.
You are the tenant.
In fact, you are the visitor.

If ONE bedbug enters your house today, by tomorrow morning they are about 70 million.
No meeting. No warning. Just multiplication.
Bedbugs don’t disturb sleep, they cancel sleep.
They don’t bite you, they traumatize you.

If you survive bedbugs, you may need therapy to feel safe in your own bed again.
Bedbugs will make you appreciate the Nigerian government.
Bedbugs are worse than bandits.

You can fumigate today, tomorrow, next week,
one or two will still survive to tell the story.
In fact, to finally defeat bedbugs, you have to leave the house for them.
You relocate.. While you probably wait for Trump to Nuke your area.

And let’s talk about their confidence.
Bedbugs existed before beds were invented.
Meaning they came prepared.
Humanity just caught up later.

Their scientific name is Cimex lectularius- you see the name? Bedbug is a senior lecturer.
And trust me, bedbugs will lecture you about life, humility, suffering, patience and why pride is useless.
In every language, the name “bedbug” never sounds friendly.

In Idoma, it's called 'ikpre'.
In Ebira language, it's call Ikazi (which sounds like 'irazi', meaning 'war') You dey hear am? Bedbugs is a bringer of war.

No translation sounds like peace.
So please, let’s stop this debate.

Mosquitoes are annoying but Bedbugs are demonic.
If bedbugs visit your house, you are the guest.

[Tatty H. @tattyhassan]

Ada lagi solution lain abang ni boleh explore.

Cuba cari rumah terbiar mana-mana, pindah duduk sorang situ, nanti ada lah tu suara budak-budak.

[Simons @Simon_Ingari]

"Why does our top performer get the worst reviews?" the boss asked.

I was reviewing their annual performance data.

"Show me," I said.

She pulled up the ratings.
Diana: 2.8 out of 5.
Below average on "collaboration."
Low marks for "team player."

"What's her actual performance?" I asked.

"Exceeded every target.
Landed our biggest client.
Trained three new hires."

"So why the low scores?"

"Her peer reviews are dragging her down."

I scanned the comments.
"Too direct."
"Challenges ideas too much."
"Not supportive enough."

"Let me talk to Diana," I said.

"I used to give honest feedback," Diana told me.
"Said our pricing model was broken.
Got dinged for 'negativity.'"

"What happened with the pricing?"

"They finally fixed it six months later.
After we lost two major accounts."

"What else?"

"I questioned why we needed
eleven approvals for a simple contract change.
Manager said I wasn't being collaborative."

"Are you still giving feedback?"

"No. I learned my lesson.
Now I smile. Nod. Say everything's great.
My reviews are improving."

"But nothing's actually improving?"

"We're making the same mistakes.
Just with better vibes." She chuckled.

I went back to the boss.

"Your review system doesn't measure performance," I said.
"It measures compliance."

"That's not true."

"When was the last time someone
got promoted for challenging bad ideas?"

Silence.

"When did someone get rewarded for preventing a mistake?"

More silence.

"You've trained your best people to stay quiet.
And your mediocre people to stay nice."

A few months later, they redesigned the system.

Added a category: "Constructive Challenge."
Points for identifying problems early.
Rewards for preventing costly mistakes.

Diana got promoted.

"What changed?" I asked the boss.

"We stopped confusing agreement with alignment.
Stopped mistaking silence for harmony."

"And?"

"Turns out our 'difficult' people
were our most valuable.
They actually cared enough to speak up."

Here's the truth about performance reviews:

Most companies don't reward performance.
They reward performance theater.

The person who says the meeting was great
beats the person who says it wasted an hour.

The person who agrees with bad ideas
beats the person who prevents disasters.

You think you're measuring contribution.
You're measuring conformity.

And your best people?
They've already figured out the game.

They're just deciding whether to play it
or find somewhere that values truth over comfort.

[Simons @Simon_Ingari]

A Gen Z joined the team.

Week one.

During onboarding, the manager said,
“We sometimes stay late during peak periods.”

Gen Z nodded.

Then asked,
“Is that paid… or just expected?”

The room went quiet.

- No attitude.
- No rebellion.
- Just a question.

Later that day, HR mentioned “growth opportunities.”

Gen Z replied,
“Does growth include raises, or just more responsibility?”

Again, silence.
- No laziness.
- No entitlement.
- Just clarity.

That’s when the team realized something.

When people say
“Gen Z is lazy,”
what they really mean is:

Gen Z watched old generation
- skip meals,
- miss birthdays,
- work weekends,
- and burn out

only to be told
“budgets are tight”
and “be grateful you have a job.”

So Gen Z chose differently.

- They don’t romanticize overwork.
- They don’t confuse suffering with ambition.
- They don’t trade health for praise.

They still work hard.
They just refuse to work for nothing.

It’s not laziness.
It’s pattern recognition.

And honestly,
after everything old generation went through…

Can you really blame them?

[masxinamm @masxinamm]

balik kerja harini penat gila. penat otak. confirm la tak larat nak lari. bye.

[susa @prinkasusa]

if you choose A WORKING WOMAN, you must accept that she CANNOT manage a house full time by herself. if you choose A HOUSEWIFE who can take care of and manage the household completely, you need to accept that she DOES NOT MAKE MONEY and you will have to provide for everything. if you choose a SUBMISSIVE WOMAN, you should accept that she DEPENDS on you to lead. if you choose to be with a STRONG WOMAN, you should accept that she is STUBBORN and has her own thoughts and ways

[masxinamm @masxinamm]

ada a few people ingat baju mak weekend haritu tailor made. padahal mak beli kat tiktok je. hewhewhewww. kebanggaan waniter sebenar.

[masxinamm @masxinamm]

minggu ni dah forecast sesiap kerja memang hectic namati, hari ahad dah set kat otak yang akan cuti seminggu. 😴

[masxinamm @masxinamm]

fomo nya tengok orang lari langkawi la chiangmai la lawu la. kita mereput.

[masxinamm @masxinamm]

Nak muntah la tengok muka dia ini.

[masxinamm @masxinamm]

lepas harini macam dah tau dah la limit kat mana.

[masxinamm @masxinamm]

malasnya nak lari. tertinggal gel dengan air. mood off terus eh.

[KONGSI VIRAL🇲🇾 @kongsiviralje]

BELAJAR TAHAN MULUT, JANGAN SUKA “COMPLAIN”

Korang mesti pernah dengar ayat macam ni :

"Sorry la. Tak makan ikan sungai. Hanyir".
"Aku takkan makan petai plastik tu. Hancing".
"Eiii...kuatnya bau tempoyak ni. Pening".

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