It's so selfish to enter someone's life, see that they're a loving, cheerful, and good person, and decide to ruin their peace because you haven't dealt with your own issues. Leave people alone if you have no intention of showing up with sincerity.
having shitty parents really ruins your whole youth and your mental health for a lifetime and puts you at a huge disadvantages academically, socially and professionally and people just expect you to get over it