If employees are expected to spend the majority of their life at work — pulling those 60-80+ hour weeks — it's no wonder they in return demand work embraces their "whole self". But that's a terrible trade in both directions. What work and you really need is for everyone to show up with their "work self".
Your work self needn't be a facade, it can still be you — just not all of it. It's the part that shows up to be courteous to coworkers (even when you don't really feel like it), engaged in solving the tasks at hand (even when you'd rather do something else), and with no more of your outside-of-work self than you'd be comfortable sharing with a kind stranger on a long plane ride.
That doesn't mean work can't be a place where you form deeper, fuller bonds. I've met some wonderful friends at work that I've shared far more of my so-called "whole self" with during lunch, in side channels, and after work. But those relationships meant something extra exactly because they were special, and developed beyond work, even if they originated there.
Your whole self is a vulnerable show. Far more easily rattled, disturbed, or offended than the much slimmer slice that work is owed and due. Holding some of yourself back means having something in reserve. Not putting it all in play. A smaller surface area to rub others the wrong way and vice versa.
All this used to be obvious. Self evident. Encoded in our work-place uniforms, even. A tradition of restraint and reservation literally dressed in a suit or similar business attire. While I have no affinity for the business suit – hell, I don't even own one! – I think we lost something valuable when we collectively gave it up.
Same too with using the same devices at home and work. It's still the norm that workers in tech use a single phone or even computer to play double duty. All your work with you at all times. Microsoft celebrated this a decade ago, and most of us are living in that world now. Again, not at all certain this is for the better.
Work isn't owed all of you. Don't offer it. Bring your work self to work.
[Posted May 5, 2022]
so, enough time has passed now for me to talk about why i decided to leave Blizzard. a mixed year with great teammates, but a management that mistreated, lied to me, gaslit me, gave me a fake promotion, and HR that refused to help.
buckle up friendos. 💪
Finally: Crypto is an MLM, the metaverse isn't the future, Mars will be worse than earth, cities should be designed around people not cars, human art is always more interesting than AI content, giant 3 tonne electric SUV's won't solve climate change, and you should eat ya veggies
@LinusTech GTX 980Ti died mid-silicon shortage.
First, the screen had flashing boxes. Had to work, so I switch to onboard graphics. After work, I switched back to the GPU and the PC wouldn't boot.
Got an ex-mining RX 570 for cheap until prices normalized. They didn't :(
@DH80456094@Snowden True, things can go too far. Especially when the people aren't consulted before these decisions and changes are made.
You've given me something to think about.
@markzahra@DerekAshauer Yeah, for this feature we went for a database structure that is optimized for queries, at the cost of some redundant data. Speed over optimal normalization. Which I'm fine with.
Besides, analytical data is "historic", in that it doesn't change over time.