Some of you are far too cruel to yourselves about your past mistakes and it shows in how you judge others for making similar ones. But please know that there are people who choose to hug themselves for the very things you stab yourselves over, and that kindness set them free.
That intense feeling of betrayal when you realize she's laughing at your jokes not because she appreciates your humor, but because she's sexually attracted to you.
High-empathy individuals with strategic detachment can predict human behavior without bias. They don't leave angry. They leave in quiet. And quiet is the most permanent exit.
Your first attempt might not be very good, but nobody's early work is good. There will always be a gap between where you are and where you want to be. And the bridge between that gap is courage. The courage to look foolish in the beginning. The courage to show up again when your early work is criticized. The courage to look yourself in the mirror and say, "I realize I'm not good enough yet, but the only way to get better is to keep working on it."
there are people who write more honestly in a language they learned later in life than in the one they grew up speaking. and that sounds strange until you realize that your first language absorbed every rule your culture ever had about what's appropriate to say out loud, what feelings are acceptable to name, how much honesty is too much honesty at a dinner table. and sometimes a second language arrives with none of that-it's just words. clean ones. and in those clean words some peoplefinally say the
-thing they were never given permission to say in the language that raised them. that's what language actually does before it's had time to learn your family's rules.
Be rugged, be informed, be stylish, be humble, be dangerous, be friendly, be respectful, be calm and understanding. Your body language should always be a mystery that unravels layers of multiplicities. You should be incharge of how you unveil whichever layer you see fit at any moment. But most importantly, be original and authentic. Not entirely theatrical.
I would only tell a man's daughter one thing, that most men are profoundly lost, frightened creatures who do not understand themselves, let alone you. they arrive with their needs poorly disguised as affection and they are so sturdily convinced of their own sincerity that they will fool you for months, sometimes years. and this is not because they are evil, it is because they are unfinished. and unfinished men do terribly stupid things to the women that love them and then stand there baffled at the wreckage, as if some other man inside them did it all. that so the one thing i would tell her is this, you will not be able to tell the unfinished ones from the finished ones by their words. you can only tell by what they do when they are angry, or tired, or scared. that is where you see what you are actually working with
That feeling when you join the +13m Triple Jump Club and attain the U20 World selection standard 🔥🔥.
You also get your first senior National championships medal at 18yrs old... God is good 🙏🏿🥰
Covered my 11th Nigerian Athletics Championships, not missing one since the first trials I covered in Warri in 2015.
Initially, there was a dour feeling whether this year's edition would be any good. Surprisingly, the 100m came through. It now looks like a masterstroke, moving the men's 100m to Tuesday.
Exciting Championship all round.
I am forever grateful to MoC for this great opportunity, having a front-row seat of Nigerian Athletics Championships.