Unfortunately, i don't like nonchalant men. Be dominant. Check on me. Be affectionate. Tell me im gorgeous. Plan dates. Buy me flowers. Be absolutely obsessed with me
After getting married, there will always be someone prettier than your wife, someone richer than your husband, that's why you better marry your spouse for their soul. So you'll realize that no one on earth could ever be them. So you'll stop searching and stay beside them.
If you ended a relationship and realized they didn't go looking for another person, didn't go out partying, but instead started running, training, taking care of themselves, and distancing themselves from everyone so they could overcome themselves... I'm sorry to tell you that they truly did love you.
And I'm sorry to say you let a very good person slip away, one you won't find again... not even in another lifetime.