i actually think "surface level" friendships are very healthy. not everyone in your life has to be your ride or die. some friends are for the gym. some are for going out. some are just for complaining about work or bureaucracy. when you stop expecting everyone to be your everything, the disappointment disappears. those deep convos and connections are for the 2-3 people closest to you
I tell my man a lot of things but one thing I won’t do is run my mouth about my friend’s personal business. & I think it’s hella weird to go run & pillow talk to your man about something a friend told you in confidence.