yk what's really attractive?? a secure man with no sneaky stuff, no extra females, no inconsistency, no drama, a man who is expressive about his feelings for you, gentle with u, makes u feel safe, a man who still has the same level of respect and love during bad terms...Top tier.
I'm sorry I am a traditional woman when it comes to certain things.....i firmly believe that a man is supposed to chase the woman, court her, spoil her, love her more.... anything outside of that is weird.