i think stressing over a man is pointless. the choices they make are completely out of your control & their behavior has nothing to do with you. all you can do is pray that God allows the right partner into your life & drag anyone who doesn't care for you properly out.
A narcissist isn't looking for love. They're looking for regulation. That's why you felt so needed, but never truly loved.
At the core of narcissistic structure is internal instability, fragile self-esteem, low frustration tolerance, intolerance of shame, and a constant need for validation
the older I get, the more I understand what Solange meant in Cranes in the Sky. heartbreak doesn’t disappear because you stay busy. it doesn’t heal because you find someone new, book a trip, buy things, go out every weekend, or find another way to avoid sitting with yourself. healing happens when you face the pain directly, sit with the discomfort, and allow it to teach you what it came to teach you. you can distract yourself from a wound, but you can’t heal it by pretending it isn’t there.
The obsession with making people regret losing you is exhausting. Heal the ego that needs to be missed or chased to feel valuable. Your job isn’t to be someone's punishment. Your job is to build a life so full that their regret no longer matters.