Melissa K

Writer ✍ Sleeper 🛌 Married 💍Lover of cats 😻 Swiftie 👱‍♀️ I guess I'm an adult. 😏

[Kia 🧸ྀི @xevekiah]

My girl best friend told her boyfriend something that lowkey changed how I see relationships.
She said, “I don’t want obedience. I want consideration. I shouldn’t have to beg you to think about how your actions affect me.”
She told him, “You’re allowed to have friends. You’re allowed to go out. You’re allowed to live your life. But if you constantly put yourself in situations that you know would hurt me, that’s not freedom. That’s you choosing yourself over us.”
Then she said something that hit:
“If I have to keep explaining why something disrespects me, it’s not confusion. It’s comfort. You’re comfortable knowing I’ll stay.”
And whew.
She wasn’t yelling. She wasn’t threatening to leave. She was calm. Grounded. Clear.
She told him, “I won’t control you. But I will control what I tolerate. And if I start feeling small in a relationship that’s supposed to feel safe, I’ll remove myself. Not to punish you. To protect me.”
That’s what emotional maturity sounds like.
Not “do what I say.”
But “I see the red flag. I told you it’s red. If you keep walking past it, I’m not dragging you back.”

[Melissa K @mpnyx]

@Aliya562219 Either 2 or 23

[Melissa K @mpnyx]

@gothburz Either I don't understand or you're an asshole?

[Libriscent @libriscent]

When I like someone, I instantly start going too hard. It’s like a switch flips inside me, and suddenly I’m showing up in every way I know how—too available, too giving, too loyal, too thoughtful, too reliable.

I put my whole heart into the connection before the other person has even shown me if they’re ready for that kind of love.
I want so badly to make someone feel cared for that I forget to slow down and ask myself whether they’re meeting me where I’m standing.

I know this about myself: I give the kind of love I wish someone would naturally give me. I show affection the way I hope to receive it. I put effort in because that’s how I express my feelings.

But the problem is, I often end up pouring from a full cup into someone who barely hands me a drop. I chase reciprocity by giving more, thinking maybe if I love harder, they’ll love back the same way.

But I’m learning that love doesn’t work like that. I need to calm down. I need to match the energy I’m given, not the energy I want to see. I need to stop assuming that my heart has to sprint just because my feelings showed up early.

I’m realizing that I deserve someone who naturally meets my effort, someone who reciprocates without being carried, someone who doesn’t let me do all the emotional heavy lifting alone.

It’s a hard lesson, but an important one: I can still be loving without losing myself. I can still care deeply without overextending. And I can still show up—just not more than the person standing in front of me is willing to show up too.

I’m learning to let love be balanced, mutual, and steady instead of one-sided, hopeful, and exhausting.

[Melissa K @mpnyx]

@BellaBaddie__ Mhmhmm

[Simons @Simon_Ingari]

Boss: “You arrived 10 minutes late.”
Employee: “Yesterday I stayed late finishing that last-minute report.”
Boss: “I understand… but rules are rules.”

The next day, the employee arrived exactly on time.
And at 6:00 p.m. sharp, shut down the computer.
No extra emails. No work taken home.

If punctuality is non-negotiable, then effort must have boundaries too.
Recognition cannot be one-sided.

When mistakes are highlighted but dedication is ignored, the real message becomes clear:
“Do only what’s required. Nothing more.”

Empathy costs nothing.
The absence of it? That can cost you everything—especially your best people.

[Melissa K @mpnyx]

@imadeatwitteer @WifeFinance Not a man but I just didnt find it funny 😭

[Melissa K @mpnyx]

@kaitofmyheart I have someone on my top 3 chatted to on discord who I've known for 2 months 😂 we be crazy sometimes

[Melissa K @mpnyx]

@aMeanderingMe @Biblicalman This just wrecked me lmao thanks :')

[Melissa K @mpnyx]

@cuteonlyvibes Friend, money, boobs???

[Melissa K @mpnyx]

@cuteonlyvibes Not over yet somehow

[Melissa K @mpnyx]

@cleobug101 I would never wear it personally but it's so cute

[Echo @Broken_Dreamszz]

do i really deserve all this pain? am I that bad?

[Healthy Mind / Life @H_MindH_Life]

This is a deep reason.

[🦢 @damnidc__]

"StoP cRylng, He DoNt cArE aBoUt YoU" BITCH I KNOW THATS WHY IM CRYING

[Melissa K @mpnyx]

@Matt_Pinner That makes two of us lmao

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@lilspanky Half eaten cereal boxes and near empty dry cat food bags