Some of the people who hurt you the most in relationships were usually never trying to hurt you at all. That's the part that takes the longest to make peace with.
They weren't villains. They didn't wake up and decide to damage you. They were just people carrying wounds they never dealt with, living out patterns they never examined, giving you the version of love that was given to them which was probably also insufficient, also conditional, also missing things they needed and never got.
The person who couldn't say "I love you" first learned that vulnerability was dangerous. The one who always left before they could be left was just terrified of being abandoned first. The one who pushed you away every time you got too close wasn't rejecting you specifically; they were doing the only thing that had ever felt safe to them when intimacy became overwhelming.
None of that makes what they did okay. Pain doesn't become smaller because it wasn't intentional. The damage is still real, the years are still gone and the version of yourself that got smaller inside that relationship still has to be rebuilt.
But the anger you're carrying toward them; the story where they knew exactly what they were doing and chose to do it anyway, that story is costing you more than it's costing them. It keeps you stuck in a version of events where you were powerless, where someone else's brokenness gets to define what love means to you forever.
Understanding why someone hurt you isn't the same as excusing them. It's just the moment you stop letting their unfinished business become yours.
That's what forgiveness actually is. Not a gift you give them. A weight you finally put down for yourself.
I love you so much that every time i encounter anything beautiful I think of you, anytime i experience something wonderful I wish you were experiencing it with me too, any good that comes my way I want even better for you.
Some moments are bigger than the game.
Walking out to play, carrying a loss no words can hold, you show what heart truly means. Not just a cricketer today, but a son playing for his mother.
Every step, every ball, we stand with you.
The team, the fans, all of us, right beside you.
Strength, prayers, and yellove always, Mukesh. 💛
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