“Never be vulnerable in front of your girlfriend” is common manosphere advice.
The guy I was talking to is more alpha than pretty much every other human that’s ever existed, and yet he told me a story of how he sobbed on the bathroom floor in his girlfriend’s arms when the pressure got too much for him.
Then he got up, dusted himself off and went out to dominate his challenges and become a world champion.
Here’s the thing, hiding your vulnerability from the world doesn’t make you any less vulnerable, it just makes you less honest.
You don’t change the way you feel by hiding your feelings from the world.
Limits on speech are just limits on sincerity.
If you believe that being vulnerable makes you a pussy, how do you arrive at the conclusion that feeling vulnerable and ALSO not being able to open up about it somehow makes you less of a pussy?
If your concern is that your partner will lose respect for you if she sees you being vulnerable then one of two things is true:
1. Your partner is incapable of having an emotionally open, mature relationship and it’s a massive red flag.
2. Your masculinity fundamentally rests on such a fragile foundation that a single display of vulnerability is sufficient to push it over the edge.
Your internal fear is that you’re so inherently unlikeable that you’re one wrong move away from being friendzoned? That doesn’t sound very high value.
Is it possible that if you have such a low opinion of women and think they can’t be trusted to help when you’re vulnerable, then women are going to sense that in you and respond appropriately?
If you ARE weak then showing weakness is not a signal of high value.
The goal is to be so strong that you’re able to truly open up about your difficulties before you get back on the arena floor and crush the competition all over again.
Larping as a strong stoic guy is not the same as actually being one and if the only way your partner can respect you is if you lie about what’s happening inside yourself, you’re heading toward disaster.
The most popular stories are always when a hero encounters challenges, overcomes them and triumphs in the end.
Transcending and including your emotions as a man is much more heroic to me than pretending they don’t exist.
Maybe I’m wrong.
Maybe every woman’s sex drive immediately scurries away the second any man opens up, but if that IS true, something tells me it only happens when she fundamentally doesn’t respect that man in the first place.
Being strong > appearing strong.
Heat shock proteins (HSPs) play a crucial role in staving off Alzheimer's, heart disease, and muscle atrophy and are associated with human longevity.
Ways to boost heat shock protein levels:
• Engage in rigorous exercise that induces sweating.
• Consistently sauna or hot tub for regular thermal stress.
• Heat acclimation from regular sauna sessions leads to faster and more substantial increases in HSP levels.
Specific genetic variations in the HSP70 gene, which enhances its activity, have been linked to longer lifespans. Individuals with one copy of this variant tend to live about a year longer, while those with two copies can expect to live an additional two years compared to those without this genetic advantage.
This genetic advantage can be echoed through lifestyle choices: regular exercise and sauna use actively boost HSP production, with parallel benefits for neurological and cardiovascular health.
How we define success is a source of happiness we control.
105 studies, 70k ppl globally: valuing extrinsic over intrinsic goals predicts lower well-being.
Seeking fame, money, or beauty is a bottomless pit. Pursuing growth, kindness, trust, and health is a path to flourishing.
This study is (in mice but nonetheless) a very interesting look at how cold (50F/10C) impacts immune function, inflammation and neural repair… even offsetting some paralysis after injury. https://t.co/LnUoREkZrE
When a friend or colleague is grieving, a powerful way to show you care is to ask about the person they lost.
Is there a memory you'd like to share?
It gives them a chance to express their love, honor their loved one's legacy, and reconnect with the joy they felt together.
It isn't failure that holds you back. It's the emotional baggage you carry afterward.
Self-doubt, regret, disappointment, and embarrassment are instruction manuals for learning.
The goal isn't to dwell on what went wrong yesterday. It's to discover what you can do better today.
Women who drank 8 ounces of pomegranate juice daily had infants with improved brain microstructural organization and functional brain connectivity as well as better visual development compared to infants whose mothers drank a matched calorie placebo drink.
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