“It’s time to wake the fuck up”
Neil deGrasse Tyson: “Half of my fellow graduate students when I was getting my PhD were foreign nationals. Do you realize one third of all the Nobel Prizes in sciences won by Americans were won by immigrants to America? If you’re gonna trail the world in practically everything, including your economy, it’s time to wake the fuck up”
Conor Neill: "18 years of school trained you to ruin conversations"
"You finish your pitch and the customer says, 'Your product is too expensive!' You arrive home, you're a few minutes late, your partner says, 'You are always late.' A dirty plate is left on the table... 'You never wash the dishes.' What do you say in this moment?"
The problem:
"Most of you... went through 14 years of school where you were taught one way to respond to questions. Teacher asks a question: 'How do you spell cats?' Student: 'C-A-T.' Teacher: 'What is the biological process called osmosis?' Student puts hand up, explains in detail the process through which cell membranes allow water to go from one side to the other."
He continues:
"For 14 years you've been taught that you receive and answer a question. If you went to university, you probably had another 3, 4 years where you gave answers to questions."
On why answering is the worst response:
"In real life, in persuasion, in getting to what the other person is really about, what their needs really are... the worst thing you can do is give an answer to a question."
He explains:
"If someone says 'your product is too expensive' and you say 'No it's not! It's only €1,000'... you've lost every chance to understand what else is behind their reasoning. If you get home and your partner says 'you're always late!' and you say 'No no no! Tuesday I definitely was here on time'... you're gonna have a crap weekend."
The insight:
"You've had 14... if not 18 years of training that you answer questions. And it's going to cause fights in your home life. It's going to cause problems at work. It means you're not selling anything. Because when someone says 'your product is too expensive'... that's not what their real issue is. When someone says 'I will have to speak to my boss'... that's not what their real issue is."
On emotion and thinking:
"When your partner says 'you're always late'... emotion goes up. And what happens? This part disconnects. The higher emotion goes... the lower thinking goes."
The implication:
"The way to make someone stupider is insult them, object to them, tell them they are wrong. When asked a question, there's an emotional reaction."
On why you must practice:
"If you don't practice this response, you're not going to be able to do it in the moment."
He lists the objections:
"'You're always late!'... 'You never wash the dishes!'... 'You never do your part of the share!'... 'Your product is too expensive!'... 'Your competitor is better!'... 'You failed us 3 years ago!'... 'I don't trust your company!' If you don't practice this habit of not giving an answer... you're not going to be able to do it in the heat of the moment."
Neill calls this "Conversation Aikido":
"Martial arts are about using the energy, the force of the opponent against them. In judo, if someone punches you, you pull their arm and allow the energy to keep flowing. In Aikido, the concept is you go towards the punch. Go towards the energy."
He explains:
"If someone punches you... if someone asks you a question... if someone objects, says you're wrong... the Aikido method is go towards and see the world from their view. In Aikido, you learn to go towards the punch, dodge it, and look... and you are seeing the world in the same direction as the person who's attacking you."
The technique:
"When you are asked a question or given an objection... say 'I understand' and repeat in your words what they're saying. Then give an open question back."
Example:
"'Your product is too expensive!' → 'I understand that money is an important factor for you. What other criteria will be used in taking this decision?'"
He adds:
"It takes some habit to start to be able to give 'I understand' and fill in good words. You will have to work on this quite a few times over the next 10 years to find the set of words that captures what the other person feels... what's behind it."
He explains with an example:
"'You're always late!' → 'I understand you feel frustrated.' 'I understand you feel let down.' Then: 'What can we do now?' 'What happened during the day?' 'What would you like to talk about?'"
On unlearning:
"This takes 14 years of it being drummed into you... 4 more, 18 if you went to university. It's gonna take you at least 18 years to get out of the habit of responding to questions with answers."
The lesson:
"We live in an uncertain world and we don't have the answers. But by giving the answer, we shut down the possibility of hearing what's really going on in the other person's mind... in the other person's business... what other things are going on."
On the 4th question:
"I guarantee that if you do it 4 times... the answer to your 4th open question begins to be the real underlying need, issue, interest of the person you're listening to."
@ntvkenya@ntvkenya In the words of the singer-writer, "Who is fooling who"
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If ACA just came clean, we'd trust the hustle. @shiquohiistyle just dust your self and move on.
INSTEAD OF WATCHING AN HOUR OF NETFLIX TONIGHT.
This 1 hour Stanford lecture by Joel Peterson will teach you more about negotiation and getting what you want than most people learn in years.
Bookmark it and give it an hour, no matter what.
🚨🚨EL VÍDEO MÁS PODEROSO QUE VERÁS HOY.
John Clauser, Premio Nobel de Física y 1,500 Cientificos más en Quantum Korea dicen:
"NO EXISTE Cambio Climático, NO EXISTE Emergencia Climática"
El Dr. Clause Agregó: "La narrativa del Cambio Climático es una PELIGROSA CORRUPCIÓN QUE AMENAZA LA ECONÓMIA A NIVEL GLOBAL" ⚔️🔥
American based Ugandan actress/filmmaker, Kemiyondo Coutihno has been working on a project for 7yrs. She has refused to wait any longer for funds and so she has decided to come back home and do a table reading with an amazing cast. The film is a romcom (romantic comedy) and it's called "BANANA REPUBLIK".
Kemiyondo has called upon anyone who has any fund connections (Gamba N'OGUs) with liquid to put in the project to reach out to see this piece come to life.
Congratulations Kemi upon getting this far. May the universe align for the project to be made. You are one of those abroad artists who continue to make work that shines light on Uganda.
#MakingUgFilmsFamous
Riaan Swiegelaar was the co-founder and reverend of the South African Satanic Church. He spent years involved in the occult as a practicing Satanist, witch, and psychic, leading thousands within the movement.
In 2022, while performing a ritual by himself, the room suddenly became filled with light. He turned and saw a man standing there who said, “I am Yeshua of Nazareth.”
Swiegelaar replied, “I don’t believe you. You’re going to have to prove it.”
In his own words: “He flooded me with the most beautiful love and energy. I recognized it instantly. That is how I recognized the love of Christ.”
He fell to his knees because he could no longer remain standing. A few weeks later, on July 4, 2022, he went live on Facebook and publicly announced that he was leaving Satanism. He stepped down as reverend of the South African Satanic Church and has since dedicated himself to deliverance ministry, helping others leave the occult.
No one is beyond the reach of Christ. ✝️
Lingala Proverbs
Komeka mozindo na mosapi te
Dont' measure the depth of water with your finger
Lolemu na lolemu ekutana bongo elengi ekoma
It is necessary that two languages meet so that happiness is born
Lokuta ebomaka bolingo
Lying destroys love
#LearnLingala#TraceyNyemba
The court stopping NTSA’s smart driving licence and automated fines system should make us ask a bigger question…
Is Kenya really chasing road safety, or are we rushing to automate punishment?
You cannot copy Germany’s cameras and forget Germany’s engineering.
You cannot copy developed countries’ fines and ignore the decades they spent building safer roads, pedestrian systems, markings, intelligent highways and driver culture.
Even today, pedestrians on Thika Road and our bypasses still gamble with death crossing highways because basic footbridges and safe crossing points are missing.
But somehow, the fastest infrastructure we can complete is the one that sends a fine to your phone.
A camera does not save the pedestrian who has nowhere safe to cross.
A smart licence does not fix a poorly designed road.
A digital fine does not replace investment in safety.
Kenyans are not against technology. Kenyans are not against discipline.
But technology without fairness feels like taxation with a different name.
Countries we admire built the foundation first — then automated enforcement.
We seem to be automating enforcement while still struggling with the foundation.
Road safety should start by protecting lives…
Not perfecting how to collect money from them.
Joseph Irungu Maina (JOWI) slaughtered Monica Kimani (in cold blood) as a chicken and stole her money. He was convicted and sentenced to death for that heinous crime. But tyrant @WilliamsRuto has, by fiat, commuted the sentence and ordered Jowi’s release, so that Jowi can help him execute more Kenyans.
It seems that Ruto is incapable of doing anything right, moral and accountable!
@Maryian96 Yes I would. I can't condemn a child whose hormones are trying to define their space in the world. Take it in stride and let's move with the lessons from the experience for the future. As long as my child still has breathe, they have an opportunity at life. A parent for life!
@gathara Yes I would. I can't condemn a child whose hormones are trying to define their space in the world. Take it in stride and let's move with the lessons from the experience for the future. As long as my child still has breathe, they have an opportunity at life. A parent for life!
"The law taking its course" is a cold colonial way to outsource justice rather than sit with the pain of the fact that someone we love has done horrific things. Thus we say "the law" responds, not us. True justice always sees the human being -;both the victim and perpetrator.
@lynn_ngugi1@lynn_ngugi1 Kuna vile hii map si ya ukweli. Kenya na DRC do not share even a straw of grass. So the depiction is obviously off. Probably feeding into the narratives that it is a viable option. Smh!
@cobbo3@cobbo3 I remembered some instructions handed to me in 6th December, 1996 to go and collect a Chief's permit to plan for my brother's outdoor birthday party at home. I was was to pay for "the Chief's Harambee" before getting it. I never complied. We had a night to remember.