if i have one book recommendation for any sensitive young person looking for their next read, it’s 'letters to a young poet' by rilke
i’m eternally grateful it found me when i was 20. i needed those words then, and i still return to certain passages whenever my spirit needs grounding or a little nurturing. i suspect i always will
BEING SHY MAKES YOU LOSE IN LIFE
Be egoistical. Stop losing opportunities. Stop wasting your potential. No energy. No drive. Afraid. Depressed. Start living. Other people’s opinions don’t matter. Become unapologetic. Get aggressive with your life. Fulfill your mission. Focus on your interests. Confidence will become part of who you are.
You weren’t born shy.
Your environment forced you to be.
It all comes from your childhood, where you were taught to always please others, but all this time - it was destroying everything around you.
1. She makes me feel safe, not just loved.
Love is beautiful. But safety? That is rare. With her, I do not have to perform. I do not have to hide my fears or pretend to be strong when I am falling apart. I can be fully myself flawed, struggling, uncertain and she does not judge me. She holds space for me. That is a gift I do not take for granted.
2. She matches my effort.
She initiates. She shows up. She invests. She makes me feel chosen, not just tolerated. She pours into me the way I pour into her.
3. She makes me feel like a priority, not an option.
I never have to question where I stand. She chooses me. Clearly. Consistently. Without hesitation. She does not make me feel like I am competing for her attention. She gives it freely. And that kind of clarity is everything.
Menurutku,
ada satu hal yang nggak kalah penting dari komunikasi dalam hubungan:
“Willing to learn.”
Mau mempelajari pasangannya.
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Mempelajari dunianya, apa yang dia suka dan nggak suka, traumanya, keinginannya, rencananya, ketakutannya, cara dia merasa dicintai atau hal-hal kecil tentang dirinya yang mungkin nggak semua orang tahu.
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Semoga kita ketemu sama orangnya ya🌻
Bagus banget!
Video ini menjelaskan bahwa kehidupan itu sebenarnya permainan strategis. Bukan sesederhana rajin, kerja keras, atau punya bakat. Pemenang itu yang paham aturan permainan dan bisa beradaptasi.
Tonton deh.
Thank me later!
Be boring. Don't chase trends. Don't follow opinions. Do your own thing. Things that feels right in your heart. Wake up early. Go for walks without music. Read books that takes weeks to finish. Watch old films nobody talks about. Music that's rare. Build a private, unimpressive life that makes you deeply happy. A slow life that feels like your own. That's all that matters.
aku ga suka konsep tarik ulur like mind games in relationship. some ppl say aku terlalu welcome n too easy to approach karena aku genuine. sometimes aku kepikiran juga, “aku salah apa ya sampai dilepas?”
but then i realized, i’m not wrong, i’m just being kind n treating people with respect.
just bcs i’m genuine doesn’t mean i’m not good enough. love should b easy, not confusing. i don’t want a relationship where i hv to pretend to b cold, hard to get, or harus main game biar dihargai.
kalau memang aku dilepas, maybe they’re just not my person. buka berarti aku kurang. the right person will appreciate my kindness, not take it for granted 🥹🤏🏻
kalau lagi deket sama seseorang, enjoy the moment aja, nikmatin waktunya, no pressure. match their energy: kalo dia effort, lo kasih effort juga, kalo dia santai, lo jangan over. simple, jangan expect too much, dan jangan taruh hati sampe 100%. cukup secukupnya aja, biar lo tetap waras, tetap punya diri sendiri. kenapa harus gitu? karena kalau suatu saat dia tiba-tiba pergi, lo ga bakal hancur lebur. ga terlalu kecewa dan ga sakit hati. bukan berarti lo ga tulus ya, justru sebaliknya, ini cara lo sayang yang sehat bisa kasih sayang full, tapi tetep jaga batas dan jaga hati sendiri. protect your peace.
Abis baca (lupa dimana) kalo terlalu mengaitkan value diri sama hal konkrit (kayak hobi, pekerjaan, peran) itu membuat sense of self jadi lemah.
Dianjurkan untuk mengaitkan personality sama value yang lebih abstrak dan kuat (kayak integritas, keterbukaan, kejujuran).
The world doesn't belong to highly intelligent people
The world belongs to high-energy, risk-takers, those who operate outside social norms and are not afraid to expose themselves in uncomfortable positions
mid intelignece + execution + risk > 140iq living of negative loops