I like the idea of "don't save the candles"
meaning: don't hold up your present joy, hoarding it for an unspecified future day/time when you feel ready.
burn the candles, spend time with the people you love, dance more. joy is abundant, but time is limited to feel it
grief never goes away. the loss of someone’s presence simply becomes easier to accept with time. just because you accept this loss, it doesn’t mean it hurts less. things will remind you of them - it’s okay to cry or feel sad no matter how long it’s been.