It’s a man’s job to set the tone in a relationship. A woman feeds off his energy. That’s why showing up for her and being consistent is so important. She can’t feel safe with you if you’re not leading properly.
Please be with someone who thinks everything about you is a big deal. Your birthday, A big deal. Favorite food, Big deal.
Fav flowers? Big deal. You in general? A big deal.
I can forget many things, but I can’t forget the times my friends, loved ones, and even strangers came through for me this year. I’m so grateful for them, and I love them so much. ❤
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and of good courage; do not be afraid, nor be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go - Joshua 1:9
Whatever you do, pray for the ability to see your own sins, your own hypocrisy, and your own shortcomings. Never lose sight of that— never get so carried away pointing fingers that you forget you, too, have abscesses that need tending.
Marriage exposes weak skills
Marriage has no hiding place. If you cannot talk well, it will show. If you do not know how to manage money, it will show.
If you avoid hard talks, it will show.
Love alone will not cover these gaps. Bills will come. Stress will come. Real talks will come.
Marriage exposes what you skipped learning as an adult.
It does not shame you, but it will pressure you to learn fast.
You either grow the skills, or the home stays tense.
That is the truth.
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