You can’t walked into a closed room alone with an opposite sex and later claim that what happaned in there was a mistake.
One Bible verse that keeps me humble is when Jesus said:
“The spirit, of course, is eager, but the flesh is weak.”
Whenever I reflect on those words, they remind me that no matter how sincere our intentions are, we are still human and capable of making mistakes.
As for me? I know myself no reach am. 😭😂
That is why wisdom is not just knowing your strengths. It comws from knowing your weaknesses too.
That is also why I laugh when people boast:
“I can never…”
“I am not that kind of person…”
“It can never happen to me…”
My brother, my sister, calm down. 😂
Many mistakes people make did not start because they planned to do wrong.
They started because they overestimated themselves and underestimated the situation.
Avoid overconfidence, especially when it comes to the opposite sex.
Give the wrong situation enough time, privacy, attention, emotional connection, and opportunity, and many discover that their self-confidence was stronger than their self-control.
So stay humble, know your limits, and never assume you are above temptation. The moment you recognize your weaknesses is often the moment you begin to walk in wisdom.
Since I have been actively following the Politics of my country Nigeria, this is the first time I am seeing any President using the Judiciary to unregister Political Parties.
NADECO people that are worse than Abacha
Men used to go to war to fight for God and country.
Today, they’re on different podcasts crying about how some other man took their wives.
Imagine going on a podcast to cry that an oaf like Yul Edochie slept with your wife.
Men have fallen off.
Normalize being very direct, very straight to the point and very assertive. A surprising amount of tension in adult life exist because people avoid saying what they actually mean.
I noticed something:
People who have traveled a lot tend to judge less. Not because they became nicer, but because they've seen too many versions of what's "normal."
In one country, it's normal to eat with your hands.
In another, it's normal to stay quiet at the table.
In a third, it's normal to hug strangers.
When you've seen 30 different versions of "the right way," you stop believing yours is the only one.
Travel doesn't just teach geography.
It teaches tolerance.
People love to act like all our mothers endured terrible marriages, but they actually had it much better than we do.
If you ask 200 people individually, the majority will tell you their mother didn't suffer because their father was a good man. Everyone claims their mother's case was different. But collectively, the narrative changes to "men are monsters and women are victims."
Why is it that a woman can be labeled a bad mother, friend, or neighbor, but she can never be a bad wife? In modern discourse, marital failure is always defaulted to the man's fault.
Marriages lasted in the past because they didn't marry for love, which is one of the silliest primary reasons to wed. They married based on a clear, simple transaction: “I provide for the family; you raise the children.” Everyone knew their role and executed it.
Today, a modern partner expects one spouse to be their teacher, brother, friend, confidant, and entire social circle. You are demanding what a community of 20 people used to provide from a single human being, and then wondering why the system crashes.
Traditional societies had structures. In my community, if a man hit his wife, he cooked for the entire village. If the wife instigated the fight, she cooked for the village. Accountability cut both ways. Today, we only look at the physical reaction; we completely ignore the psychological instigation that caused it.
Back then, women groups managed women's issues, and men groups checked men's behavior. Now, we have two fragile individuals, isolated from community support, trying to absorb 200 million problems alone. When they crash, they say it's because they cannot endure like their mother's.
Stop using our parents as a scapegoat for our generation's failures. My mother didn't have a bad marriage, and neither did my father. They held down their structure. We are the ones who messed up. Let’s just own it.
Growing up, I believed elders were naturally wiser, more honest, and more responsible.
What I’m seeing in Nigeria today has taught me that age and wisdom are not the same thing.
Character, integrity, and competence do not come with grey hair. They come from values.
The problem with Nigerians is you all actually think you have the same problem as Ghana , South Africa and co
We’re literally on the same level as Congo , South Sudan if not worse .
Omo! Do you people know how insane it is for terrorists to kidnap a retired general, kill him and then return his body in a handover ceremony where they took pictures knowing they'd leave unchallenged?
Do you people know what kind of trouble we are in?
Go and read about $2 Billion arms deal or Dasukigate on Wikipedia, you will open mouth on how Sambo Dasuki and the cronies of the then president, Goodluck Jonathan shared monies meant to procure arms against insurgency.
Same Dasuki is the one Tinubu gave National honor. A known thief. A corrupt man to the core. That’s who Tinubu thought fit to be given National honor. Why is this man running this country like it belongs to Gang of Lagos?
The Nigerian government has done something impressive.
They have convinced millions of people that struggling to eat, struggling to pay rent and struggling to survive is a personal failure instead of an economic one.
That's genius.