Let me say something.
And this is for young girls.
It's not easy to remain a virgin or stay celibate if you're not a virgin.
Because men will always chase you for sex.
And men know this.
Hence, they do not mind marrying a non-virgin woman.
However, there is one major advantage you may have if you're able to keep your virginity for your husband alone.
Because he knows your sexual history, you may not be silently judged by him in a negative way, if getting pregnant for your first child becomes prolonged in your marriage.
He would be very patient and understanding, and he may even agree that both of you should first try adoption pending when God blesses your womb.
Or he would be willing to spend heavily to make sure that both of you succeed in bringing forth a child or children.
And he won't regret it if all his monies spent didn't yield any positive result.
So, please be careful with your sexual life and avoid doing dangerous abortions that may have a lasting negative impact on your fertility health.
I know that many of you enjoy sex without condoms. But the risks of contracting damaging STDs are there.
Enjoy your preeq but protect your womb.
Improve on your personal hygiene too.
It's not easy for couples who are still TTC. If it happens that the problem is yours and your husband didn't meet you as a virgin, he may be low-key questioning your sexual history and getting frustrated as the wait stretches.
For men,
Infertility isn't only a women problem.
These days, young men are experiencing low sperm counts due to unhealthy lifestyles.
Please ensure that you go get tested before you marry a wife.
So that you don't frustrate your wife.
Because most of the time, the society always assumes that the problem is from the woman.
End.
People lie on social media to push narratives. You have to be careful what you swallow as truth, because a lot of what you see here is half-stories and convenient omissions.
Someone whose mother carried the family for years because the father was struggling will proudly tell you how “strong” his mom was, but he won’t tell you how much disrespect his father had to endure during that period, or how much that situation damaged the home.
He tells you the part that supports his agenda and hides the part that doesn’t.
Don’t let anyone fool you.
Hypergamy is not a social construct, it’s a survival strategy that has been wired into female psychology for centuries. From the earliest days of human existence, when life was nasty brutish and short, women married up for protection and provision. That instinct helped guarantee survival, and it still operates today.
If you think thousands of years of evolutionary behavior will be erased in a few decades, you’re lying to yourself.
Even Robert Greene said, “Preach the need for change, but don’t be the first to conform.” The same people telling you to move into your wife’s house will never do it themselves, because they understand the consequences, even if they won’t admit it.
@jon_d_doe Knowing your neighbors used to be the norm Sir. In my early days, we lived more communal than these days. I could come back from sch, bathe, eat and sleep in my neighbors house till my parents got back.I can tell your age by your comments on this post
@anthonyfjoshua ..Down but not out Champ..I think u're too humble as a champion. U gat to spark fear in ur opponents so they've lost even B4 d fight begins..be humble inside and brutal outwards..take dis advice and u'll thank me forever!
@AkinwunmiAmbode@Gidi_Traffic
Just went thru addo road in less than 5mins at peak traffic period. Kudos to the Govt responsible for finally fixing the bad roads.
@Gidi_Traffic Aways heavy traffic when approaching VGC on Lekki expressway. Unlike all the other traffic lights b4 it, traffic flow seems to favour inwards VGC rather than the express lane the round abouts were removed for. Any particular reason for dat?
@AkinwunmiAmbode@Gidi_Traffic U know it's become an epidemic when pigs come out to eat on the expressway. This is Mile 2. Dear Governor, I think it's time to restrategize and I trust u will do d needful.