The only thing I'll add to this conversation is that "I'm not a feminist but I believe in the equal rights of women and men" is something that really sounds nice on paper and protects you from opposition.
Whenever you speak up against inequality, misogyny, unfair systems, they will still ascribe the term feminist to you. And when they do that, they will mean that you're rebellious or aggressive.
It won't matter what you say you're not; what will matter is what you believe, and the limits others think they're allowed to demand of your belief.
There is also a conversation we need to have with Christian men.
Because some of you speak about women with an underhanded disdain that is deeply un-Christlike, then hide behind “biblical order” to justify it.
You cannot simply look at every Christian woman who resonates with feminism and dismiss her as rebellious. History has shown women have had reasons to fight. The Church is not entirely innocent in the abuse and silencing of women. We have sometimes weaponized Scripture instead of rightly dividing it.
Some women did not become angry because they hate God. They became angry because people used God against them.
There are women who have been talked down to, ignored, diminished, spiritually manipulated, and emotionally controlled in church spaces while men quoted “submission” at them like a threat.
And when women begin to push back against that, you cannot automatically label them rebellious without enough humility to ask:
“What exactly are they reacting to?”
Because even in Scripture, God did not condemn women who challenged systems.
The daughters of Zelophehad fought.
They contended.
They challenged a structure that disadvantaged them.
And God said:
“The daughters of Zelophehad speak right.” (Numbers 27:7)
Not rebellious.
Not dishonorable.
Not with the spirit of Jezebel…
Right.
Some of you need to realize that being male does not automatically make your interpretation superior.
Statements like:
“Woman was created later, therefore she is lesser,”
“Eve was deceived, therefore women are inferior,”
“Men are naturally superior because Adam came first,”
do not make you sound spiritually mature. They make you sound biblically unintelligent.
Genesis 1 says:
“Male and female created he them.”
God did not create woman as an afterthought. He had both genders in mind from the beginning.
And Genesis 2 is not about superiority.
It is about order.
Order does not mean value.
Christ and the Church have order.
The Father and the Son have order.
Order is not inferiority.
In fact, biblical leadership is not domination.
Christ never used His position to belittle the Church, He died for her.
So how did some Christian men become more arrogant than Christ?
You brandish submission like a weapon.
You speak about masculinity like it is superiority.
You talk about women as though leadership means lordship.
News flash, you are not a biblical male. You are carnally minded and we all know what that means.
To lead in our Kingdom is to serve. Where is your service?!
And if creation order is your argument for superiority, then goats should be greater than men because animals were created before Adam.
The logic collapses immediately.
The truth is many women are angry because they encountered distortion disguised as doctrine.
Male ego preached as theology.
Misogyny defended with proof texts.
And instead of constantly rushing to call women rebellious, maybe Christian men need enough self-awareness to ask:
“Have we represented Christ properly?”
Because many women are not rejecting Christ.
They are reacting to men who looked nothing like Him.
Love and Light… with a sprinkle of Holy Ghost Fire.
“Suspected” when the whole point, from a political view is that Pilate was a coward according to Roman law before Christian laws, Flavius Josephus literally writes “How can a present of Caesar succumb to a mob against an innocent man?” Almost every Roman historian was fuming.
The moment you collect money from or mingle with evil people, you lose your voice and ability to speak against evil. This is what selling your soul looks like, no be one midnight ritual.
the most dangerous thing you can tell yourself about someone with a track record of mistreating people is that you are different. you are not different. you are next.
Very hot take:
This "Mr and Mrs" conversation is very telling on why simple CONSENT is an issue. I can draw a straight line lol.
If you can't respect people's choices on things like this, how then would you understand that NO is NO?
You're stuttering...
Ok.
Bye.
And you can have your stupid opinions to be honest, but stop lying on scriptures and saying it says something it doesn’t. Some of you can’t separate your culture from what scripture teaches.
And while we're at it:
Calling me Bukayo's wife is not the same as calling me Bukayo. The same way calling him Orifunke's husband is not the same as calling him Orifunke.
There is Bukayo and there is Orifunke. Please, let's be honest with ourselves.
@yabaleftonline Before you guys tweet what you don't know, remember that his FIRST NAME is Salem, not his surname. First name. Why would you call her by his first name (not even his surname) when she has her own first name? Would you also like to be called by your wife's first name?
It’s a foul and evil thing when you only bring up the sexual harassment of boys as a counter argument when people talk about sexual harassment of girls.
I see through that wickedness! Your aim isn’t to advocate the men, it’s to silence women who have been victims of rapist men!
When violence against women is met with defensiveness instead of outrage, it exposes the real problem: protecting male comfort matters more to them than protecting women’s lives. And that silence, denial, and distraction is how this violence keeps surviving. 2/2
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