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You become harder to manipulate when you understand the emotional states that make you careless. Loneliness makes you attach too fast, praise makes you trust too quickly, and shame makes you accept less than you should, self-awareness is not softness but a form of protection
You become harder to manipulate when you understand the emotional states that make you careless. Loneliness makes you attach too fast, praise makes you trust too quickly, and shame makes you accept less than you should, self-awareness is not softness but a form of protection
The most powerful response to disrespect is not rage. Rage tells them they found the button. It is not a speech. Speeches tell them you still want approval. The most powerful response is a clean withdrawal. Less access. Less warmth. Less availability. No announcement. A new version of you they can no longer access.
There’s nothing older people hate more than a younger person that refuses to be intimidated by their gimmick and actually stands up to them. “I’m old enough to be your mother”. But you’re not my mother. Off the road with that nonsense abeg.
People will exclude you because they don’t like you and then dislike you even more because you’re not bothered that they’re excluding you. Please stay excluded.
Game theory explains why people become more honest as their options increase. Most honesty is tested under scarcity. When someone has no alternatives, they are incentivized to manipulate, exaggerate, and conceal. Abundance removes survival pressure. The person with options can afford the truth because the cost of losing any single outcome is lower.
There is only one thing they cannot digest. Indifference. Not performed indifference. Not the cold shoulder that secretly hopes they notice. Real, settled, genuine indifference. The kind where they simply stop being a factor in your life.
In low trust environments, be polite and cordial, yet brief. Minimise attack surface: share little personal information. Ignore provocations and be unprovocative. Be unopinionated. Express uncertainty when pressed. Do not emote. Avoid attachments. You are there, but not present.
Remember when I said travel used to be about human connection, expanding your horizons and moving beyond borders??
There is now a subset of “travelers” that believe seeing the world makes them less relatable.
Insufferable in every setting.
How did this mother and daughter relationship get to this messy? Mother calling daughter such names and daughter replying her mom like she's her mate?
Na the father i just dey pity sha.
The easiest way to control a man is to keep him emotionally reactive. Trigger his pride, trigger his insecurity, trigger his need to explain himself, and he will volunteer his leverage. Train the pause. Let silence do the intimidation. When you stop reacting, people lose the handle they use to steer you.