ky

none of us are free until all of us are free || neuroqueer genderqueer guy | he/they

[ky @nerdwen]

Hey, I'm Ky! My pronouns are they/them. I talk about mental illness, queer stuff, video games, politics, and whatever else is going on in my life. Below: a bit more about me, and some of my favorite threads.

[suzy @arendellepeach]

just gasped at the most beautiful transition i have seen in an edit wtffff

[jean @TW1NKD3STR0YER]

the genius of heated rivalry, as a tv show, is that it's a premise written by a non-sex haver ADAPTED clearly by sex havers. this makes it an implausible fantasy executed with incredible verisimilitude and heart-wrenching tension. utopianism. much like america itself

[Edward A. Perin - Psychologist @DoctorPerin]

My brother’s spiciest psychology take is that that the rise in poor impulse control over the last thirty years came from the success of anti-smoking campaigns, because cigarettes used to manage and cover ADHD and anxiety symptoms

[Isabel🌻 @isabelunraveled]

flirtation is an attitude towards the world. you sometimes meet people and are struck by their openness, mysteriousness, and, well, flirtiness. they don’t seem attached to how you receive them, and enjoy weaving their own bit regardless of whether you do. this itself is magnetic.

[scott 🌞 @scottdomes]

many of us have the implicit belief that life is a series of tests to be passed, and if we’re good enough, then we get access to the wealth, love, safety, and belonging we crave

this worldview tends to produce lots of internal tension & fear, making us feel on edge, trying to desperately avoid getting it wrong

but actually there are no “right” answers. there’s no answer key. everything is contextual, and the most important context is you: what gives YOU the most access to the experience you want

in that view, life is a lot more like a playground than a exam room. there are endless experiments we can run

in those experiments, it’s not about right/wrong, but about more/less, farther/closer -> what brings us closer to love safety and belonging, and what moves us farther away?

seeing life as a series of experiments tends to produce relaxation & excitement, which gives you more energy to pursue even more fun experiments, and makes you more resilient to setbacks & moments of pain

so the big question to ask yourself is: why does life feel like a test? what happens if I “fail”? what am I actually afraid of, and is that fear helping me, or just getting in the way?

and lastly: who would I be without that fear? what would I create? 🌒

[Richard Ngo @RichardMCNgo]

If you’re going to hang around rationalist spaces, you should deeply internalize what I call Hanson’s razor: never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by autism.

[scott 🌞 @scottdomes]

the quickest way to illuminate all your limiting beliefs is to name your wildest ambitions & start making a plan

[鴻都 HongDu @hongdu_dev]

@TylerAlterman people be following speedrun guides on their first playthrough written by other guys on their first playthrough

[Tyler is finishing a book, slow to reply @TylerAlterman]

People are playing life as it’s a linear narrative-driven game when it’s actually an open world game

[@melissa @melissa]

it’s time to whitepill x on parenting books, and i say let’s start with bringing up bebe —

> american marries englishman, moves to france for reasons, slowly realizes she's raising french children, while she (for better or for worse) remains Very American

notes:

[scott 🌞 @scottdomes]

your ability to create the work you want to create is tied to your willingness to commit to what energizes you… and your willingness to release that which depletes you

[Isabel🌻 @isabelunraveled]

you’re so powerful it’s ridiculous. if you understood this, your life would look vastly different. but you stimulate yourself to avoid this. because if you never sit with the gravity of your potential, you never see the tragedy of not actualizing it. and so you keep on Scrolling

[nina @ninagrewrites]

allowing people into my life comes with one question, which is: ‘do they live life in a way I would want to live?’ do they live without bigotry, projection and judgement and with integrity, intelligence, transparency, and kindness? if there’s any doubt on that, then they can stay out of it.

[scott 🌞 @scottdomes]

pleasure is not a sin or an indulgence. it’s just an experience. it’s something your body craves. it’s a signal to your nervous system that you’re in a space of abundance. it is a foundation for love

“where am I denying myself pleasure in my life—and why?”

[Will Manidis @WillManidis]

every decision i've ever made that wasn't an instant "hell yes" has been a mistake. every pro/con list is an admission the thing isn't worth it. the path God has laid out for you is so obvious it feels like getting bludgeoned with an anvil. no analysis makes a bad decision good

[Spencer Beswick @spencerbeswick]

There is simultaneously a high school teacher shortage and a glut of PhDs who can't get professor jobs. Why do PhD programs not give an option of getting a Master of Arts in Teaching during the PhD so that people can get teaching jobs instead of burning themselves out adjuncting?

[scott 🌞 @scottdomes]

so many of us are afraid to do this, or to even phrase the question

[nicole ruiz @nwilliams030]

I have been on a hunt for people a generation older than me in Brooklyn who are living the walkable community lifestyle, know their neighbors, etc

The common denominator in how they got there?

"We just started hosting parties"

[nicole ruiz @nwilliams030]

you can literally just host supper club

[0live 🇵🇸🇸🇩🇨🇺 🐇🐈🦌 @0liviaolive]

i hold extremist political views such as "people should have their basic needs met" and "war crimes are bad" and "we should not accelerate the apocalypse for the profits of a few oil companies"