How to get your spark back
- Go to the gym
- Buy new clothes
- haircut for men / new style for women
- travel somewhere you haven’t been
- Get closer to God
you need to be slowmaxxing. you need to be reading long, fat books. you need to be making 48-hour chocolate chip cookies. you need to spend hours watching wildlife, you need to spend 15+ min making your coffee. you need to breathe in and breathe out. you need to be slowwwwwwwwwww.
You don’t need to be cold. Just inaccessible. Respond slower. Reveal less. Be polite, but unreadable. When people have to guess how you feel, they start treating you like someone they can’t afford to miscalculate. That’s how distance breeds influence.