Met a 73 year old woman today.
Her spouse died and she was unable to pay rent after his passing. She was a housekeeper and he was a gardener.
She now lives in a park.
She's on 11 different wait lists for senior housing and has been waiting for 2 years.
The regret rate of gender-affirming surgery is 0.3%.
The regret rate for knee replacement surgery is 6-30%.
"Transition regret" is a false narrative being pushed by the media to prevent people from getting access to life-saving, gender-affirming healthcare.
However...
Let's address that 0.3%.
Many outside factors contribute to a trans person's regret:
👉Unsupportive families.
👉Transphobic environments.
👉Normal post-op distress.
Just because that 0.3% of people regret their surgery doesn't mean they're not transgender.
The fear of regret shouldn't stop thousands of trans people from getting access to the healthcare they deserve.
Regret rates exist - but not for the reasons the media are trying to push.
There was a little coffee shop where two people arrived and approached the counter.
“Five coffees ☕️ please. Two for us and three pending.”
They paid, they took their two coffees and left.
I asked the waiter. "What’s this about pending coffees?"
“Wait and you'll see."
Some more people came in.
Two girls asked for a coffee each, they paid and left.
The following order was for seven coffees and it was made by three women -
Three for them and four pending coffees.
I was left wondering...what is the meaning of the pending coffees, they leave.
Then, a man dressed in worn clothes, who looks like he might be homeless, arrives at the counter and asks sincerely...
“Do you have a coffee pending?”
“Yes we do, sir.”
They serve him a coffee.... I got my answer.
People pay in advance for a coffee that will be served to whoever can't afford a hot drink.
This tradition started in Naples.
Amazingly, it has spread throughout the world’s cities and towns.
It’s also possible to order not only “pending coffees” but also a sandwich or a full low cost meal.
Wouldn’t it be great if we could all start doing this in the cities and towns where we live?
Small kindnesses like this can impact so many lives, in ways we could never imagine.
Maybe we should all try it.
😊❤️🌹
My father is a builder. It’s difficult to get his attention in magnificent spaces because he’s lost in wonder. We were in a vintage carceral-themed McDonald’s. I asked him what it would cost to build it today. I’ll never forget his answer:
“We can’t, we don’t know how to do it”
Brendon had to overcompensate for Ryan’s absence and just one album exhausted all of the talent and creativity he had left in him. There was none left for the rest of his career
Texas passes a total public drag ban.
The law bans "sexual gesticulations using accessories or prosthetics that exaggerate male or female sexual characteristics."
It will target all public drag by calling all drag "sexual."
Wonder if it will be used against cheerleaders too.