Nicola Bridle

IT Project Manager, geek, MBA. Interested in tech, data, AI, business management, internet cats, heavy music & cocktails. Mostly cocktails 🍸

[The Shovel @TheShovel]

Fed up scientists have added a new level to the fire danger rating scale https://t.co/VxK2y9STcG

[Mark Ogge @MarkOgge]

This isn’t just happening to us, it’s being done to us.

By fossil fuel companies and the governments who enable them.

Australia has 100+ major fossil projects under development that will add billions of tonnes of emissions to our atmosphere. https://t.co/mWwwfmKXl2

[MFWitches @MFWitches]

For the record, it’s absolutely true that sometimes, women don’t come forward with rape allegations until they see that a specific person has also been accused by someone else.

Yet doing this has always been framed by rape apologists as evidence the woman is lying, because they like to claim women engage in “copy-cat” accusations against men for fame and profit.

In fact, it’s unheard of for a woman to profit in any tangible way from a rape accusation, and the vast majority are damaged for life from taking this action.

The real reason many women don’t come forward until they’ve heard about an accusation made by someone else is because:
- they honestly think nobody will believe them unless there’s more than one victim (and in most cases, they’re right);
- they haven’t been able to find the courage to report until they believe they may find solidarity with one or more other women who experienced the same;
- they’re embarrassed about aspects of what they did the day they were raped (such as being drunk, wearing a short skirt, having consensual sex before they were raped, going to a man’s home or workplace alone, or walking home alone at night) because women are conditioned from birth to blame themselves for rape, and they can’t overcome this shame until somebody else with the same attacker manages to do so;
- they haven’t even been able to correctly frame what happened to them as rape (because doing this is so traumatic), and it isn’t until they hear the same man has been accused by someone else that they’re able to face or confront their own experience truthfully; and/or
- they believe they were raped but were drunk, drugged or otherwise incapacitated when it happened, and while their trauma is still extreme they’re not 100% sure about what occurred until that same or a similar scenario is voiced by someone else.

All those reasons are valid, and none mean the woman is lying. In fact, since the incidence of rape and sexual assault is so high (at least one in three women) and rape convictions are so rare (only around 1 to 2 percent of accusers), any woman would frankly have to be out of her mind to make an untrue accusation, even if there were one or more other victims.

Remember how many victims Bill Cosby had before they were believed?

FIFTY.

How many for Jimmy Saville?

HUNDREDS.

So being one woman amongst a small handful gives a person only a small extra chance of a conviction, and even then there’s nothing in it for her.

Nothing, that is, except the opportunity to have her character, dress sense, sobriety (or lack of it), financial status, sexual history, phone/email records, work ethic, other relationships and/or reputation for honesty publicly dragged through the courts.

And possibly even then sued for defamation for good fucking measure.

In coming weeks, more women will come forward about Russell Brand.

And more women will come forward about rapists everywhere (including, soon, at least one high-profile one in Australia) and all of them will be disbelieved, attacked and vilified in ways most of us can’t even imagine if it were to happen to us.

Our job is to support them, at least as much as these shitfucked men have traditionally been supported, enabled and openly lied about by so many people for so fucking long.

We need to be ready.

PS: Never was a quote like the one below more wrong, because never was a man protected and helped for so fucking long by all those around him (including the police) who always and forever saw a famous person as omnipotent and his women victims as dirt under their feet.

It has to fucking stop.

#ToYourBrooms
#MeToo

[Dr Jemima Hubberstey @CoffeeBookGirl]

Possibly the best book category I have ever seen.

[Harvard Business Review @HarvardBiz]

1. Look for the company's culture or mission statement online.
2. Ask direct questions about culture during your interview.
3. Reach out to your new colleagues and ask for more info. https://t.co/oqmeQOiIxa

[Nicola Bridle @nicster]

@mpesce @V20_summit Looking swish in the blue suit Go get 'em!

[Lydia Leong @cloudpundit]

Will cloud adoption fail systemically across the market as organizations become completely unable to successfully staff major cloud initiatives? https://t.co/dNkG1ENk4z

[Forrest Brazeal @forrestbrazeal]

new little song:

"The Re-Org Rag (I'm My Own VP)"

[Rikhard Husu @RikhardHusu]

Finnish prime minister Sanna Marin was asked about a potential off-ramp for Russia to end the war in Ukraine. Her reply:

[Nicola Bridle @nicster]

So true.

[Harvard Business Review @HarvardBiz]

Best friends at work are lifelines. They provide crucial social connection, collaboration, and support for each other during times of change. https://t.co/ldsxxh8ns3

[Nicola Bridle @nicster]

I signed the petition for stronger legal protections against facial recognition technology. Add your name here: https://t.co/lOAasGn0YO

[Nicola Bridle @nicster]

Remove Islamic Republic of Iran from the UN commission on the status of women - Sign the Petition! https://t.co/FOMzwywttn via @ChangeAUS

[Nicola Bridle @nicster]

Remove Islamic Republic of Iran from the UN commission on the status of women - Sign the Petition! https://t.co/FOMzwywttn via @ChangeAUS

[Dan Rather @DanRather]

Of all the messages I have shared over my career, as a field reporter, from the anchor chair, and most recently through my platforms on social media and this Steady newsletter, this is among the most important. At least to me personally. https://t.co/uYlOS5nFMn

[Dan Rather @DanRather]

If Ron DeSantis were concerned about migrants who REALLY are bringing crime to Florida, apparently there is a family he might round up in Palm Beach. I can give him the address if he needs it.

[Nicola Bridle @nicster]

https://t.co/kQWFn5Rxdx

[@[email protected] 💙 @brianleroux]

One week until we share what I believe is the first HTML framework.

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[Elie Mystal @ElieNYC]

There are stories like this all over the black community. This is just what we face.

[Dr Adam Rutherford @AdamRutherford]

Ignore all the noise of this hellsite and blast this glorious symphony into your head!