JUNE IS MEN’S MENTAL
HEALTH MONTH
It is good to be successful. However, let us be careful lest we set unrealistic standards as markers for success. We also need to move from IG standards of success being proof of masculinity.
If a man’s identity is built only on his career or income, any setback feels like a personal collapse.
Men who fall on hard times may withdraw out of shame or guilt.
BE KIND TO YOURSELF !
If the riches come, that’s good. If they don’t, you are not less of a man—you are just navigating life with different tools.
Desperation will tank your life in all its forms.
You'll make subpar decisions.
- desperation in jobs, work, or even relationships
It's why it is repulsive to most people.
THIS IS GOING VIRAL SO I WANTED TO SHARE IT HERE TOO:
A bit from my past:
My first job after getting my PhD was working as a therapist for people from low socioeconomic backgrounds.
Almost all of them were diagnosed with depression, GAD, bipolar, or BPD. Most were highly medicated— some to a point that still sticks with me years later.
As I got to know their background and lives 3 things were very clear:
1. A vast majority had been emotionally neglected, emotionally abused, or physically abused as children.
2. A vast majority had experienced domestic violence or were currently living in it.
3. Basic needs were never met. Life was an hour by hour struggle. Treatment was an attempt to allow them to get to work in most cases. To just continue to surviving.
It was the start of me questioning the field I had been trained in. One that diagnoses people with disorders without taking a look at the whole picture. It began my path of holistic understanding.
A person cannot be well when one unexpected bill will have them fall behind on rent. When they lay their head on a pillow and all they can think about is expenses piling up. When a bill at the grocery store is almost double what they paid last year when their income has stayed the same.
An entire family unit deeply struggles within survival mode. When a job is lost. When daycare needs to be paid, but so does the light bill— what do you choose? When parents can’t even think about the emotional needs of their children because they have to figure out where their next meal is going to come from.
In 1942, 10 years before the diagnostic manual of mental illness was released Maslow knew what was once just common sense: we have a hierarchy of needs.
At the bottom are basic needs food and shelter. Then safety (resources, security). Then belonging (connection, friendship, intimacy.) Without three things we *will* be sick, period.
I get pushback for questioning the status quo. And I’ll continue to do it. The status quo is keeping people sick. It denies their experience. And it says we should bandage people’s symptoms so they can return to the environment that made them sick.
May we wake up, heal ourselves, and build conscious communities to help each other.
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LIFE ACCOMPLISHMENTS THAT GO UNNOTICED:
1. Being happy in your marriage
2. Taking a pay cut to do a job you love
3. Making a major life shift at 50 or 60
4. Enjoying your own company
5. Being able to say “no” comfortably
6. Using your gifts to help others
7. Divorce from a dysfunctional situation
Dr Dixon Chibanda, a world-renowned Zimbabwean psychiatrist, has won the US$150 000 McNulty Prize in recognition of his innovative Friendship Bench concept. By empowering grandmothers to become therapists, he is promoting holistic mental healthcare in simple but remarkable ways.
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@theficouple Depends on which angle you’re on. Very aggressive on debt utilization but otherwise on wealth building. How do you grow aggressively without getting into debt
THE DEADLY EFFECT OF CRYSTAL METH!!
Methamphetamine is a highly addictive stimulant that can have long-lasting effects on the body.
This is a man-made substance that with the advent of other more efficacious prescription stimulants
@memorynguwi Never underestimate the power of mentorship. Equipped with a huge role and responsibility at a tender age, with no mentorship, huge fumble. Good mentorship is pertinent especially in early stages of one’s career.