“goober” kentfield

alex | they/them

[“goober” kentfield @nospar]

was starting to think i was becoming asexual then realized its actually normal to never want to fuck someone who treats you like shit all the time and puts no effort into making you feel loved lolllll

[thom @thomposting]

Relationships where youre afraid to say anything when something bothers you cause you know their reaction will be even worse and it basically all amounts to a zero sum game of toil and misery you cant walk away from >>>>>

[⋆☀︎｡ ོ @S0L4RFL4RE]

You need to get the fuck away from anyone who thinks they’re the only one allowed to have real problems. A person that can’t hold space for your humanity will inevitably dehumanize you.

[“goober” kentfield @nospar]

@AsleepTurnpike dazed and confused

[“goober” kentfield @nospar]

second riw*

[“goober” kentfield @nospar]

gave myself a tattoo of the second column furthest left after rewatching mad men and getting to the hobo code episode and looking up this (not very reliable?) chart

[donald boat @laserboat999]

I like that the hobo sign for “Kind Lady Lives Here” is a cat

[Mal @444buns]

men want a cool gf until she’s actually cooler than them and suddenly they start doing unpaid psychological warfare to make her insecure

[“goober” kentfield @nospar]

freddy rumsen best mad men character

[alan woke @mangointahiti]

doing this every morning as suicide prevention

[ness ˚₊·͟͟͞͞➳❥ @bigwetfart123]

trying to resolve a misunderstanding with someone whose main motive is to preserve their ego feels like this

[a. @diffident_]

one of the more disappointing parts of getting to know people is watching someone carefully present all the correct opinions and all the right principles, only for familiarity to reveal how little resemblance they bear to the person those beliefs are supposed to produce

[sarah hagi @KindaHagi]

people who wield their pain and misfortune to control others bc they think they have a monopoly on suffering are the scariest people you will ever meet… the second you notice someone doing this RUN!

[“goober” kentfield @nospar]

@winnie4prez very happy for u that u have someone actually competent as a partner i was just shit talking my lazy ex lol but i am having an easier time cooking for one and being able to make leftovers last so at least there’s that!

[“goober” kentfield @nospar]

another fun time is when u do enjoy cooking so ur partner takes that to mean that the constant neverending labour of planning meals, grocery shopping, and cooking dinner every single day is actually Fun Time for you lmfao and that’s why it’s unfair to expect them to help at all!

[winnie (save 🇸🇩, free 🇵🇸) @winnie4prez]

i have to say, marrying a man whose mother genuinely enjoys cooking & takes a lot of pride in it has been a bit annoying bc I probably spent like, 4 years trying to get him to believe that I derive no pleasure from cooking/hosting, it brings no meaning to my life, & that

[quartered dove 🕊️ @2Wintersilver]

i think a good relationship is founded on curiosity. curiosity for not just someone's inner world, but their mundane world, as well. let me ask you about your preferred mug.

[“goober” kentfield @nospar]

the only way i leave work on time is on days where im trying to leave a little early

[Raven 😈 @_ravens_crime_]

seeing adhd discourse about time blindness with a bunch of people going “bet you aren’t late for social events or flights and i bet you never leave work late” when yes actually those are all things that happen on a regular basis

[R.J @RJ16848519]

one last check

[“goober” kentfield @nospar]

and then imagine ur partner makes u feel like a useless asshole for having this happen to you instead of trying to help! it feels so great to be punished for things beyond ur control when ur doing ur best to manage them

[victoria ♀️ @fatfabfeminist]

this is just a single silly moment but imagine this happens for everything you do all the time just constantly. not just with minor things but ur keys or documents or money, it’s exhausting having a brain that’s unreliable & this is just one of the ways adhd is in fact disabling

[addison barger pr @bargerfan]

me when my workplace is falling apart but i know im quitting in a week