the qur'an doesn't rush us through life. it repeatedly tells us to look, reflect, remember, and understand. perhaps one of the reasons our hearts feel overwhelmed is because we're moving faster than our souls were created to.
In order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. Not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you.
there's a beautiful sunnah of making things easy for people. whether it's forgiving a mistake, explaining something patiently, or helping someone without making them feel embarrassed, kindness has always been part of the prophetic way.
even in Islam, we're taught to make hijrah. if you don't like where you are, move. if your environment drains you, change it. if what influences you isn't good for you, walk away. there's nothing wrong with leaving what harms you
My contribution to this discourse is that I cannot forgive anybody while I’m still facing the consequences of their actions. It is like a constant slap in the face. Fix it, or fuck off
Please whatever you do, do not - as an adult - allow your survival and livelihood be dependent on someone’s mood. Get your money. It doesn’t matter how little it is. Get your money and stay content.
I told my mom I wasn't attracted to a guy who liked me and she told me to give him a chance. I said guys don't give girls they're not attracted to a chance so why should I do it? Silence at the dinner table
While we are discussing physical abuse, let’s not forget verbal abuse. The reason we see many young people with severe cases of low self esteem is because they had parents who made them feel absolutely worthless.
Most of us who didn’t “go astray” or stayed the course of being a “good child” did so because of our own convictions, not because we were beaten into submission or lived in fear. Yes, upbringing plays a role, but at some point, our own values and choices took over. Who go spoil, go spoil.