It used to be that marriage was the starting point. Two people came together with almost nothing but each other, and they built everything side by side: careers, homes, families, dreams.
The process of building wasnโt just something practical, it was bonding. It forged loyalty. It required sacrifice. It taught interdependence. Today, weโre told to have it all before we marry. A stable career. A house. A good savings account. independence.
But by the time two people finally come together, theyโve spent years learning how to do life alone, how to protect themselves, prioritize themselves, rely only on themselves, and somehow we wonder why itโs so hard to build a life with someone?
Marriage is no longer a beginning. Itโs an accessory to an already-built life, but two self-contained, self-sufficient lives do not easily merge. There is no โoursโ, now there is only โyoursโ and โmine.โ
Individualism didnโt just redefine marriage.
Individualism is its death.
Louise Hay's powerful first steps to truly love yourself
1. Stop all criticism โ starting with yourself.
Make a vow: No more criticizing you or others. It's the foundation.
2. Stop scaring yourself with fearful thoughts.
List your fears โ then turn each one into a positive affirmation.
"Make a list of your fears and give yourself the opportunity to turn each fear into a positive affirmation."
Simple. Transformative. Life-changing.
0:56 clip inside โ gentle, profound wisdom.
contoh lainnya lagi.
bayangin weekend ini, kamu udah ada rencana.
โgua mau sekedar lari di taman, atau olahraga di gbk, beli kopi, udah itu pulang milih rebahan aja, ngelanjutin series netflix kemarin..โ
tiba2 lu buka ig, ngeliat teman mu update, ternyata lagi lamaran, atau lagi nikah sm pasangannya dengan perayaan โmewahnyaโ
tanpa disadari yg awalnya lu single dan damai2 aja dgn rutinitas olahraga di weekend tadi, lu jadi merasa khawatir, tiba2 kepikiran yg enggak2, kok gua gini2 aja yaa, kayaknya gua harus mulai ada yg dirubah deh..
gua yakin perasaan2 kayak gini, hampir pernah muncul di kepala orang2..
intinya guys..
percaya aja sama timeline hidup kita masing2, ga perlu liat orang lain dan jadiin patokan yg โberlebihanโ
selagi kita berusaha, berdoa, percaya sama semua prosesnya, waktunya nanti akan datang jg ke kitanya.
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umur 25-30 tahun itu, biasanya lagi di fase yg banyak โkagetโ dan fomo nyaโฆ
bayangin hari ini lu udah ada rencana.
โgua hari ini mau kerja, siangnya beli kopi jago, makan bawa bekel, pulang sorenya, gua istirahat bentar terus lari, atau nge-gymโ
tiba2 lu buka instagram, dan liat temen mu update, keterima kerja di multinasional company, foto di depan sign perusahaan barunya, dan siap relokasi ke negara baru bawa istri dan anaknya.
damn, tiba2 lu ngerasa ketinggalan~