Cheating is a foreign word in Dinka. Unless you are selective about culture. A lady was allowed to date more than one man, and her family would help choose the better suitor.
Have more men to shield your heart.
Back in my final year at campus, I was dating Wanjiru a sharp-tongued, fiercely independent Kikuyu babe from Nyeri who carried herself like she owned the entire Central Province. While I was busy surviving on a diet of boiled maize and academic stress, Wanjiru treated my bedsitter like a boardroom.
She’d walk in with a full carton of shopping, balance my erratic budget, and look at me with eyes that suggested she saw a CEO where everyone else saw a struggling student.
My fragile ego hated every bit of it. Whenever she tried to spoil me or slip cash into my jacket pocket, the ancestral pride of Ogutu’ kicked in. I thought letting a woman pay my way made me less of a man.
On graduation day, the heavens opened. Wanjiru didn't just wear her gown; she brought an extra tailored suit for me, looked me dead in the eye, and said, "Fanuel, stop acting like a fool. My father left me a hardware store and prime plots in Nyeri town. Pack your two shirts, let’s go build an empire."
True to my stubborn nature, I puffed out my chest, shoved my hands in my pockets, and gave her some cold, philosophical nonsense about "making it on my own." Wanjiru cried and looked at me with pure disappointment, adjusted her graduation cap, and said, "Never in my life have i been disappointed this way."
Years later, I am here dodging Nairobi landlords, while Wanjiru is married to a disciplined guy from Meru, running a multi-million hardware empire along the Nyeri-Nanyuki highway, supplying building materials to half the region.
Guys here is my worry now, am in a serious relationship with my girlfriend right now from Nyanza and guess what? My Nyeri Ex-girlfriend is telling me that "she's ready to divorced her husband for me, she still loves me. They Have no kid with the Meru man and she's ready to settle with me"
what should i do guys? Your response is highly valued, should i go for my Kukuyu ex-girlfriend?
What's the hurry at railway crossings? A few seconds of impatience can cost you a lifetime.
A train doesn't negotiate with speed! Stop and let it pass.