Masturbation is literally: "I don't care how my day or week goes. I just need to feel something for 5 seconds." And that 5 seconds is costing you your peace, your sensitivity to God, and your self-respect.
I have a theory on why Mourinho has stopped winning at the level we became accustomed to.
And I don’t think the answer is simply that Mourinho suddenly became a bad coach.
Football changed.
More importantly, footballers changed.
The type of player Mourinho was at his best with is becoming increasingly difficult to find.
Think about the players from his greatest teams.
Terry.
Lampard.
Drogba.
Zanetti.
Cambiasso.
Materazzi.
Eto’o.
Milito.
These weren’t just talented footballers. They had an enormous tolerance for suffering.
They could be coached hard.
They could be challenged.
They could play through pain.
They could accept uncomfortable instructions.
They could sacrifice individual numbers for the team.
And most importantly, they were willing to completely buy into the manager.
Mourinho’s entire philosophy was built around collective mentality.
He wanted players who would run through a wall for the team and, sometimes, through a wall for him.
But modern football has moved in a different direction.
Players today are more empowered.
They have bigger personal brands.
They have their own teams around them.
They are constantly exposed to media, social media and public opinion.
They understand their market value.
They are more likely to question certain methods that previous generations simply accepted.
That doesn’t necessarily mean today’s players are weaker mentally.
It means the relationship between player and manager has changed.
And that matters enormously for Mourinho.
Because Mourinho’s greatest weapon was never just his tactics.
It was his ability to create an almost cult-like level of belief inside a dressing room.
He could tell Lampard, you’re the best player in the world, and Lampard would carry that belief onto the pitch.
He could challenge Terry and make Terry feel like he had something to prove.
He could tell Inter that everyone was against them and turn that into fuel.
He could make his players feel like us against the world.
But that formula becomes harder when the modern dressing room is less willing to surrender completely to one personality.
And there is another problem:
the tactical environment caught up with him.
When Mourinho was dominating, his ideas were revolutionary.
The compact defensive block.
The aggressive transition.
The importance of tactical preparation.
The exploitation of opponents’ weaknesses.
The psychological warfare.
The detailed opposition analysis.
Today, almost every elite club has access to this level of preparation.
The things that once made Mourinho different became standard practice.
The game also became more positional, more technical and more intense.
Teams became better at pressing.
Build-up structures became more sophisticated.
Full-backs became midfielders.
Centre-backs became playmakers.
Goalkeepers became part of the first phase.
Possession became more strategically important.
And managers like Guardiola, Klopp, Arteta and others pushed the tactical evolution even further.
So Mourinho was no longer operating in an environment where his old advantages were automatically unique.
The game caught up.
But I think there is an even deeper problem.
Mourinho’s football was built around control.
He wanted to control the opponent.
Control space.
Control emotions.
Control the narrative.
Control the dressing room.
Control the game.
Modern football increasingly rewards managers who can create systems that function almost independently of individual authority.
The best teams today often have extremely complex automatisms.
Players know where to stand.
Where to rotate.
When to press.
When to drop.
How to create overloads.
How to manipulate the opponent’s structure.
The system itself becomes the source of control.
Mourinho historically relied much more heavily on the manager-player relationship as a source of control.
And when that relationship weakens, some of the magic disappears.
Isn't it embarassing when during holidays your children ask you why they are not going upcountry like their neighbours?
How long will you continue living in rented houses in the city?
This year, buy land, own soil, build a home.
Don't live like a vagabond.