So many have internalized the lie that they have uncontrollable sex drives and no way to control their anger. They aren't ashamed of their abusive behavior because they see it as something natural to them. It's scary as hell.
Machiavelli said it is better to be feared than to be loved. Fear you can control,love never.
Depending on an emotion as subtle and changeable as love or friendship will only make you insecure.
Better to have others depend on you out of the fear of consequences of loosing you.
Be the only one who can do what you do,and make the fate of those who hire you so entwined with yours that they cannot possibly get rid of you.
Otherwise you'll someday be forced to cross your own bridge of sighs.
To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted. The more you're relied on,the more freedom you have.
Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you'll have nothing to fear.
Never teach them enough so they can do without you.
NEVER, under pain of death, honestly or dishonestly reveal the number of women you’ve slept with or explain any detail of your sexual experiences with them to a current lover.