Every single one of us have been a shitty friend at one point or another. What kind of friend you are is dictated by whether you recognize that or not.
I had this conversation because we have to be honest. Sometimes friends vent to other friends. It’s not malicious but everyone needs an outlet to let building pressure out. Doesn’t mean more than that.
hmmm i mind if they talk shit but i don’t mind if they vent to try to figure out how to approach me/seeking the perspective of someone else who knows and loves us both and has our best interests in mind
one thing i had to learn the hard way… you can spend so much time understanding everyone else’s perspective that you completely abandon your own experience. having empathy without boundaries will have you extending grace to everyone except yourself.
I had to let go of my lifelong neuroticism to regain my mental and physical health and one thing I've noticed is that people get very offended when you refuse to stress yourself out in the same manner as them